SAHM's and Money
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SAHM's and Money
| Fri, 06-23-2006 - 1:57pm |
I am a WOHM but have always felt like this, even as a kid. I know it is probably wrong, but it is a strong feeling I have had.
When SAHM's say "I bought this or "I saved MY money for this", I always want to say "YOUR" money? Now, don't get me wrong, my mom was a SAHM and a great one at that but she would get spending money every week, just like I do, while working, but I can't feel technically that it was "HER" money.
Staying home is a hard job, being home today I can say that it is much harder to have a stressful out of the house job AND have kids but it is more physically demanding then my job.
I just feel that any money in the household has been made by the dh and is really "HIS" all the time. He just gives it to his wife to spend. I know this is horrible but I was wondering if anyone else felt this way?
When SAHM's say "I bought this or "I saved MY money for this", I always want to say "YOUR" money? Now, don't get me wrong, my mom was a SAHM and a great one at that but she would get spending money every week, just like I do, while working, but I can't feel technically that it was "HER" money.
Staying home is a hard job, being home today I can say that it is much harder to have a stressful out of the house job AND have kids but it is more physically demanding then my job.
I just feel that any money in the household has been made by the dh and is really "HIS" all the time. He just gives it to his wife to spend. I know this is horrible but I was wondering if anyone else felt this way?

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sure, if you're a manager.
i've worked in retail selling clothes. i've worked in fast food reteraunts. i've worked in upscale resteraunts. i've worked as a carpet cleaner, worked as a bouncer, worked in retail selling cigars, worked as a an insurance salewoman, free lance atrist, life gaurd, barista, as a tutor, an assistant teacher, a moderator, you name it, i've probably done it.
standing around all day selling clothes is not hard. it may be boring...that much is true. but it aint hard.
the sad part is that he really is nice...or he used to be.
his family (the whackjob inlaws whom i now fully understand why he hates them) royally messed him up as a kid, hence the NPD. when he went into the military he got away from them, got good training, and really grew up.
then he moved back and the poisonous, backstabbing, malicous little beasties got to him again. the longer we lived next to them, the worse he got.
now things are changing. we'ved moved away, he's agreed to go into counsiling...his personality is already changing back into the sweet, romantic man i once knew.
its gonna take time...a lot of time and counsiling (for me too, i have a great deal of resentment) before we heal. but i'm willing to give it a whirl...and we'll see what happens.
Did not. Just said that my denomination was of the "Judge not, lest ye be judged..." school of thought. Hence the logic for performing gay marriages and all sorts of other controversial stuff! B/c the denomination tries to love and accept (and not judge) like Jesus did.
And actually, I take DS lots of places in the van, but don't travel the road I was on unless I'm coming home from the RE. So your logic doesn't really hold, although in fairness to the debate, you couldn't possibly have known that. I've started taking another route home anyway, so it's a moot point.
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