SAHM's and Money
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SAHM's and Money
| Fri, 06-23-2006 - 1:57pm |
I am a WOHM but have always felt like this, even as a kid. I know it is probably wrong, but it is a strong feeling I have had.
When SAHM's say "I bought this or "I saved MY money for this", I always want to say "YOUR" money? Now, don't get me wrong, my mom was a SAHM and a great one at that but she would get spending money every week, just like I do, while working, but I can't feel technically that it was "HER" money.
Staying home is a hard job, being home today I can say that it is much harder to have a stressful out of the house job AND have kids but it is more physically demanding then my job.
I just feel that any money in the household has been made by the dh and is really "HIS" all the time. He just gives it to his wife to spend. I know this is horrible but I was wondering if anyone else felt this way?
When SAHM's say "I bought this or "I saved MY money for this", I always want to say "YOUR" money? Now, don't get me wrong, my mom was a SAHM and a great one at that but she would get spending money every week, just like I do, while working, but I can't feel technically that it was "HER" money.
Staying home is a hard job, being home today I can say that it is much harder to have a stressful out of the house job AND have kids but it is more physically demanding then my job.
I just feel that any money in the household has been made by the dh and is really "HIS" all the time. He just gives it to his wife to spend. I know this is horrible but I was wondering if anyone else felt this way?

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Very true and I did say if I did stay home, I would then have a schedule but I don't when I do.
Most of the single girls I work with can't imagine getting 2 kids ready and myself everyday for work and I tell them you get into a routine. I'm sure there are many SAHM's who have a routine and can get out of the house early everyday.
My point is I can't imagine how the dh feels it is ok to come home to a dirty house and no food on the table when their wife was home all day (or some of the day) and then they have to pick up the slack. AND...yes I really think it depends on the ages of your children. Someone with very small children are doing much more than someone with a 8 year old and maybe an 11 year old.
***That's why if I have the energy to WOH FT and do much of the household work, even though you wouldn't live that way, "it shouldn't bother you."***
LOL. It isn't about energy I just am not about to work at my job 40 hours per week and come home to work more hours because my DH can't be bothered it. Uh BTW...Your situation doesn't bother me. I never said it did.
***Well I guess they think because we woh we get to have 3 hour lunches like some of their dh's. I WISH!!***
My DH works 10 hour shifts. He doesn't get to have dinner or lunch. He runs through a drive thru if he is lucky and eats in his patrol car.
***I am not lazying around having fun all day, it is stressful, hard work. I work because I have to, not because I want to.***
I am sure you work hard. However I drew my conclusions because you are posting on a message board during working hours. Not your lunch hour.
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