SAHM's and Money

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Registered: 04-27-2005
SAHM's and Money
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Fri, 06-23-2006 - 1:57pm
I am a WOHM but have always felt like this, even as a kid. I know it is probably wrong, but it is a strong feeling I have had.
When SAHM's say "I bought this or "I saved MY money for this", I always want to say "YOUR" money? Now, don't get me wrong, my mom was a SAHM and a great one at that but she would get spending money every week, just like I do, while working, but I can't feel technically that it was "HER" money.
Staying home is a hard job, being home today I can say that it is much harder to have a stressful out of the house job AND have kids but it is more physically demanding then my job.
I just feel that any money in the household has been made by the dh and is really "HIS" all the time. He just gives it to his wife to spend. I know this is horrible but I was wondering if anyone else felt this way?

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Registered: 03-12-2005
Thu, 06-29-2006 - 4:52pm
We were also discussing child care related things. When kids get older too there is the whole running them to activities and friend's homes, all of which take time.
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Registered: 12-29-1999
Thu, 06-29-2006 - 4:55pm

Ever have a bad day? Seriously. I think what you're describing is the exception, not the rule in most households. Moreover, my DH understands that there will be days that he comes to home to a messy house and that if he doesn't run through the drive through, there is no dinner. It doesn't happen often, but if I'm sick or DS is sick, sometimes the house isn't clean and dinner isn't on the table. And our family has survived that just fine.

Sometimes, I don't cook dinner at all if DH isn't going to be home or is eating dinner out. DS and I will have a salad or go out to dinner. I don't particularly enjoy cooking, it's something of a necessary evil for me. So sometimes, I just don't do it.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 06-29-2006 - 4:57pm
I'm on a conference call right now.

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Registered: 03-12-2005
Thu, 06-29-2006 - 4:58pm
You woh fulltime and come home and do the major cleaning jobs. Why is this okay for women but not for men?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 06-29-2006 - 5:02pm
She wouldn't do that if her DH were a SAHD, I'll bet.

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Registered: 03-12-2005
Thu, 06-29-2006 - 5:37pm
Does computer time count as work?
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Registered: 03-12-2005
Thu, 06-29-2006 - 5:46pm
I'll wager money on that one. I doubt her dh would do much around the house. Do you think your dh would automatically do all the housework if he were at home?
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Thu, 06-29-2006 - 5:48pm
If you mean the internet, I wouldn't know because I don't use that part of the computer at my job.
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Thu, 06-29-2006 - 5:49pm
I never said that was ok but that is the norm of most women I know.
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Thu, 06-29-2006 - 5:50pm
I am not at work today, I am off. One of my 149 days I have off this year!!!!!

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