SAHM's and Money

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-27-2005
SAHM's and Money
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Fri, 06-23-2006 - 1:57pm
I am a WOHM but have always felt like this, even as a kid. I know it is probably wrong, but it is a strong feeling I have had.
When SAHM's say "I bought this or "I saved MY money for this", I always want to say "YOUR" money? Now, don't get me wrong, my mom was a SAHM and a great one at that but she would get spending money every week, just like I do, while working, but I can't feel technically that it was "HER" money.
Staying home is a hard job, being home today I can say that it is much harder to have a stressful out of the house job AND have kids but it is more physically demanding then my job.
I just feel that any money in the household has been made by the dh and is really "HIS" all the time. He just gives it to his wife to spend. I know this is horrible but I was wondering if anyone else felt this way?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-12-2005
Thu, 06-29-2006 - 5:50pm
I mean posting here. You said you work 9-5 and you were posting during that time. Does this count as work rather than play?
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-12-2006
Thu, 06-29-2006 - 5:51pm

I don't know, does hot tar have any nutritional value? Gotta be some minerals in it, right?

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-27-2005
Thu, 06-29-2006 - 5:51pm
I answered that before and when I am at work, I do not use the internet. Don't have the time and we are not allowed to use the internet that way.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-12-2005
Thu, 06-29-2006 - 5:53pm
So your problem is really with situations that fall outside of the norm?
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-14-2006
Thu, 06-29-2006 - 5:57pm
I agree, the dynamics if their marriage is she is the primary in running the household and he secondary. That would likely not change. He may do more housework than he does now but she would still be the primary.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-27-2005
Thu, 06-29-2006 - 6:36pm
No, I have no problem if that is how it works for you. My dh would feel differently if I stayed home and not worked. After awhile he would want to know what I did all day if I couldn't get the house semi-clean and he never had clean laundry.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-27-2005
Thu, 06-29-2006 - 6:37pm
I was not at work today. I was at home posting.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-27-2005
Thu, 06-29-2006 - 6:40pm
Yes he would because that would be the understanding that since he is home all day, he will do the housework and watch the kids, just like women do.
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-17-2006
Thu, 06-29-2006 - 6:42pm
You are still on downtime. Are you honestly saying that you always work when you are on the clock? I think everyone has downtime during the day. SAHP as well as WOHP.
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-17-2006
Thu, 06-29-2006 - 6:44pm
Well then you are not working 9-5 Mon-Fri.

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