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SAHM's and Money
| Fri, 06-23-2006 - 1:57pm |
I am a WOHM but have always felt like this, even as a kid. I know it is probably wrong, but it is a strong feeling I have had.
When SAHM's say "I bought this or "I saved MY money for this", I always want to say "YOUR" money? Now, don't get me wrong, my mom was a SAHM and a great one at that but she would get spending money every week, just like I do, while working, but I can't feel technically that it was "HER" money.
Staying home is a hard job, being home today I can say that it is much harder to have a stressful out of the house job AND have kids but it is more physically demanding then my job.
I just feel that any money in the household has been made by the dh and is really "HIS" all the time. He just gives it to his wife to spend. I know this is horrible but I was wondering if anyone else felt this way?
When SAHM's say "I bought this or "I saved MY money for this", I always want to say "YOUR" money? Now, don't get me wrong, my mom was a SAHM and a great one at that but she would get spending money every week, just like I do, while working, but I can't feel technically that it was "HER" money.
Staying home is a hard job, being home today I can say that it is much harder to have a stressful out of the house job AND have kids but it is more physically demanding then my job.
I just feel that any money in the household has been made by the dh and is really "HIS" all the time. He just gives it to his wife to spend. I know this is horrible but I was wondering if anyone else felt this way?

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The 23rd-was at work, just like I said.
The rest were on my lunchhour AT HOME from 12-1.
I NEVER said my dh did nothing, he just has different ideas on when things should be done and I am the total opposite. I want things done now and don't want to wait for anyone else to do them. I was the worst when I was pregnant because he did all the laundry because I could not bring it downstairs and he is the "later", "in a minute" kind of person and it drove me crazy!!
Very true. There are many different circumstances and I do understand that. My dh does have a longer day than me though. He gets up at 5:30am-leaves the house at 6am-starts work at 7am-gets off at 4pm-gets home at 5pm. I leave at 8:20 and get home at 5:20pm.
I really think it depends on the ages of the children, how many and if there is any high maintenance children. My dd is ADHD so she has always been very hyper. She is like 3 children in 1. My son is not so you can reason with him more, most of the time as he is 2 1/2-lol!!
Well, IMO, parenting involves a lot more than cleaning and cooking. I actually read, interact, play and talk with my children.
There is absolutely no reason whatsoever that my dh could not help out. Now that we both work, he helps even more.
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