SAHM's and Money

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Registered: 04-27-2005
SAHM's and Money
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Fri, 06-23-2006 - 1:57pm
I am a WOHM but have always felt like this, even as a kid. I know it is probably wrong, but it is a strong feeling I have had.
When SAHM's say "I bought this or "I saved MY money for this", I always want to say "YOUR" money? Now, don't get me wrong, my mom was a SAHM and a great one at that but she would get spending money every week, just like I do, while working, but I can't feel technically that it was "HER" money.
Staying home is a hard job, being home today I can say that it is much harder to have a stressful out of the house job AND have kids but it is more physically demanding then my job.
I just feel that any money in the household has been made by the dh and is really "HIS" all the time. He just gives it to his wife to spend. I know this is horrible but I was wondering if anyone else felt this way?

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Registered: 05-17-2006
Fri, 06-30-2006 - 7:02pm
It is your choice to work through it.
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Registered: 05-17-2006
Fri, 06-30-2006 - 7:03pm
No I didn't say that. I said that when they napped that is when I did my household chores. IF I got what needed to be done in that time frame I might get lucky and get 40 minutes of downtime before they woke up.
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Registered: 05-17-2006
Fri, 06-30-2006 - 7:05pm
No it isnt. My house requires cleaning. The laundry is required to me washed. Grocery store isn't an option. Children activities have to be supervised and travel time.
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Fri, 06-30-2006 - 7:07pm

Of course the kids are his, they were made from both of us. An inheritance, it would depend. My parents still have things only in my name because that is what they saved up for years for me but he benefits from it.

What would happen if you divorced-would the furniture still be his? When push comes to shove, it was still bought by you. A house that is not in the other spouses name is not their's either.

I would love my dh to outearn me. I am so proud of him now that we make the same amount as he has worked less years at his job to get where I have that took over 10 years.

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Registered: 04-27-2005
Fri, 06-30-2006 - 7:08pm
?????????????? Who ever said that??
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Registered: 05-17-2006
Fri, 06-30-2006 - 7:10pm
Well that is great for you. However I dont see what the big deal is having someone come help out during those first few weeks. My MIL was here when my two youngest were born. She was awesome. She kept the other child(ren) busy while I took care of the baby. My youngest had to stay in the hospital for few days and she was such a great help. I didn't have a cow when she left. However I think it is great that new parents have someone around to help out.
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Registered: 05-17-2006
Fri, 06-30-2006 - 7:11pm
How did you get 6 hours a day to yourself? Where were your kids?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 06-30-2006 - 7:11pm

Well that's more times than my DH makes *me* dinner, and he's a SAHD. But that's cause I'm a complete foodie and like to make the meals.
He makes the kids breakfast 3 days a week, sometimes more. He makes dinner for them 3 days a week, though usually he's reheating something I made.

If your DH works full time and makes breakfast once a week, dinner once a month (for all of you) I think that's great.

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Registered: 04-27-2005
Fri, 06-30-2006 - 7:13pm
I only had 1 child then and she slept 3 hours in the morning, 9-12pm and 3 hours in the afternoon, 2-5.
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Fri, 06-30-2006 - 7:14pm
If I really need him to cook, he will. Most of the time when I need him to feed the kids, they are out the door to McDonald's! His specialty is mac & cheese, if you get my drift-lol!!! If I give him all the things to make though, he can do it.

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