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SAHM's and Money
| Fri, 06-23-2006 - 1:57pm |
I am a WOHM but have always felt like this, even as a kid. I know it is probably wrong, but it is a strong feeling I have had.
When SAHM's say "I bought this or "I saved MY money for this", I always want to say "YOUR" money? Now, don't get me wrong, my mom was a SAHM and a great one at that but she would get spending money every week, just like I do, while working, but I can't feel technically that it was "HER" money.
Staying home is a hard job, being home today I can say that it is much harder to have a stressful out of the house job AND have kids but it is more physically demanding then my job.
I just feel that any money in the household has been made by the dh and is really "HIS" all the time. He just gives it to his wife to spend. I know this is horrible but I was wondering if anyone else felt this way?
When SAHM's say "I bought this or "I saved MY money for this", I always want to say "YOUR" money? Now, don't get me wrong, my mom was a SAHM and a great one at that but she would get spending money every week, just like I do, while working, but I can't feel technically that it was "HER" money.
Staying home is a hard job, being home today I can say that it is much harder to have a stressful out of the house job AND have kids but it is more physically demanding then my job.
I just feel that any money in the household has been made by the dh and is really "HIS" all the time. He just gives it to his wife to spend. I know this is horrible but I was wondering if anyone else felt this way?

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Honestly? I would. Not that I'll ever have a chance to prove it, of course...but I would.
Edited 6/30/2006 11:31 pm ET by lauren1063
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Where did you get this fact?
I know plenty of happily married couples (both with sahm and wohms) and money is not an issue. Most of my friends who are divorced are divorced b/c their dh's cheated on them.
Sounds like you're mad at him for something he hasn't even done yet.
If someone thought so little of what I did, I'd probably try to make it sound more important, too. Just sayin'.
No, you misunderstand. I'm not controlling, I'm un-cluttering. Trust me, after 18 years of living together, and 16 years of marriage, I KNOW what I can and can't throw away. I'd be in deep sh*t if I threw away my dh's autographed photo of Thurman Munson, or his prized bootleg Grateful Dead CD collection. But the Van Halen World Tour '78 T shirt has seen better days.
My son was like that. He got up between 5:15 & 5:30 every single day. I tried putting him to bed later to see if he'd sleep later. The only difference it made was that he woke up between 5:15 & 5:30 REALLY CRANKY.
A magical thing happened one day that changed that for him and made him want to stay asleep all morning long. That magical thing was called school. ;-)
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