SAHM's and Money
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SAHM's and Money
| Fri, 06-23-2006 - 1:57pm |
I am a WOHM but have always felt like this, even as a kid. I know it is probably wrong, but it is a strong feeling I have had.
When SAHM's say "I bought this or "I saved MY money for this", I always want to say "YOUR" money? Now, don't get me wrong, my mom was a SAHM and a great one at that but she would get spending money every week, just like I do, while working, but I can't feel technically that it was "HER" money.
Staying home is a hard job, being home today I can say that it is much harder to have a stressful out of the house job AND have kids but it is more physically demanding then my job.
I just feel that any money in the household has been made by the dh and is really "HIS" all the time. He just gives it to his wife to spend. I know this is horrible but I was wondering if anyone else felt this way?
When SAHM's say "I bought this or "I saved MY money for this", I always want to say "YOUR" money? Now, don't get me wrong, my mom was a SAHM and a great one at that but she would get spending money every week, just like I do, while working, but I can't feel technically that it was "HER" money.
Staying home is a hard job, being home today I can say that it is much harder to have a stressful out of the house job AND have kids but it is more physically demanding then my job.
I just feel that any money in the household has been made by the dh and is really "HIS" all the time. He just gives it to his wife to spend. I know this is horrible but I was wondering if anyone else felt this way?

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"They all don't require 24-hour assistance like someone with a 3 yr. old and a 1 yr. old. Those moms are the ones who don't get a break because there is no one there to help them during the day."
Someone with a 3yo and a 1yo most certainly does NOT require 24 hour assistance. It might be nice, but it's hardly necessary. Most of my friends have coped with very young children and newborns on their own just fine, even straight after the birth. My MIL did come for 2 weeks when dd was born, but after that I was on my own (truly on my own for a week because dh had a business trip when she was just 4 weeks old and I had a 3 yo who no longer napped to take care of at the same time). I certainly didn't feel heroic, nor did my friends...we all just coped and it wasn't the end of the world. Very few of my friends had help after the birth and none had extended help beyond the first 2-4 weeks, even if they had older children to deal with as well.
I have made more money than him for years and he didn't spend any less than now. He has done a few part time jobs over the years to help us pay for things and would never hesitate to get another one if we neeed the money.
My dh is a spender so I totally understand when my parents left some things in my name. Now, today, he would NEVER blow the money but he probably would have had it in his mind when we were young and first met because he was basically taught nothing about money from his mother. Now, we have fixed up the house with the money and he wouldn't have it any other way. We have 1 more thing to do with the money for our house and then it is gone.
I also feel all of the things are ours in the house but we got married young so we had no money and both worked hard to buy everything we have. Alot of people are getting married older now and bring their things into the marriage. I think if I was them, worked my butt off for years to buy my own things, if the marriage dissolved, I would want it back.
LMAOROF...I love that scene.
This stupid Roy Rogers, wagon wheel coffee table.
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