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SAHM's and Money
| Fri, 06-23-2006 - 1:57pm |
I am a WOHM but have always felt like this, even as a kid. I know it is probably wrong, but it is a strong feeling I have had.
When SAHM's say "I bought this or "I saved MY money for this", I always want to say "YOUR" money? Now, don't get me wrong, my mom was a SAHM and a great one at that but she would get spending money every week, just like I do, while working, but I can't feel technically that it was "HER" money.
Staying home is a hard job, being home today I can say that it is much harder to have a stressful out of the house job AND have kids but it is more physically demanding then my job.
I just feel that any money in the household has been made by the dh and is really "HIS" all the time. He just gives it to his wife to spend. I know this is horrible but I was wondering if anyone else felt this way?
When SAHM's say "I bought this or "I saved MY money for this", I always want to say "YOUR" money? Now, don't get me wrong, my mom was a SAHM and a great one at that but she would get spending money every week, just like I do, while working, but I can't feel technically that it was "HER" money.
Staying home is a hard job, being home today I can say that it is much harder to have a stressful out of the house job AND have kids but it is more physically demanding then my job.
I just feel that any money in the household has been made by the dh and is really "HIS" all the time. He just gives it to his wife to spend. I know this is horrible but I was wondering if anyone else felt this way?

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ITA! I think very few people do not ever fight about money. We just had an argment the other day about the price of a new refrigerator. Big deal. We are not running out to get a divorce.
I do not see people getting divorced based solely on money.
***I don't get it, you can't shop because it is raining??***
If I have the children with me...no. Why would I head out in the rain to maintain a schedule.
***You have to organize your life. I go food shopping on Sunday mornings no matter if it is snowing, raining, sunny, etc.***
That is right...you go food shopping on Sundays because your DH is HOME to watch the children. Remember my DH works SHIFT work. He isn't home the same days every week. It changes every single week. So your situation is just that YOUR own.
***You make a schedule, Mondays-clean kitchen, Tuesdays-bathrooms, etc.***
Again that might work for you. However I have 3 children. One that is a cheerleader and has all sorts of places to be at all sorts of times. My son plays baseball, basketball, and hockey. My little one that does gymnastics. So you see I spend a lot of time driving people everywhere. There is no way to set schedule my cleaning routine given the fact that I have other obligations.
***but in the 12 or so hours you are awake, I am sure you can get some of it done. It just takes some prioritizing.***
LMAO...You are awake 12 hours per day? I am awake a good 16-17 at least. I think you are very confused. I get it all done. Everyday. All the things you said your DH does, I do that too. So I am not really sure where your comment that I can get some of it done, I do it all and then some.
Here is one thing I found on the net:
Why do people get divorced? In big cities, the main reason is stress. In smaller towns, the reason also involves poverty, which makes life for the married couple unbearable.
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