SAHM's and Money
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SAHM's and Money
| Fri, 06-23-2006 - 1:57pm |
I am a WOHM but have always felt like this, even as a kid. I know it is probably wrong, but it is a strong feeling I have had.
When SAHM's say "I bought this or "I saved MY money for this", I always want to say "YOUR" money? Now, don't get me wrong, my mom was a SAHM and a great one at that but she would get spending money every week, just like I do, while working, but I can't feel technically that it was "HER" money.
Staying home is a hard job, being home today I can say that it is much harder to have a stressful out of the house job AND have kids but it is more physically demanding then my job.
I just feel that any money in the household has been made by the dh and is really "HIS" all the time. He just gives it to his wife to spend. I know this is horrible but I was wondering if anyone else felt this way?
When SAHM's say "I bought this or "I saved MY money for this", I always want to say "YOUR" money? Now, don't get me wrong, my mom was a SAHM and a great one at that but she would get spending money every week, just like I do, while working, but I can't feel technically that it was "HER" money.
Staying home is a hard job, being home today I can say that it is much harder to have a stressful out of the house job AND have kids but it is more physically demanding then my job.
I just feel that any money in the household has been made by the dh and is really "HIS" all the time. He just gives it to his wife to spend. I know this is horrible but I was wondering if anyone else felt this way?

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***That still doesn't explain how the sahm helps him *earn* the money on his paycheck.***
Sure it does.
***If he was on a salary, taking a day off for a sick child would not affect his earnings.***
He isn't on a salary. If he takes the day off he either takes sick time or he doesn't get paid. Not to mention leaving work often for illness is noted. It could affect his yearly evaluation and raise.
***Um... why?***
Conflicting schedules.
OMG - I never knew that. What an incredibly screwy method.
It's not that hard, as long as everything is spelled out for everyone. My sister, for example, made an arrangement with her dh to each pay 50% for everything. One of them (him) has more left over after expenses, but their money is never shared. Vehicles and real estate are owned jointly but the costs are split down the middle. Utilities, insurance, and other bills are split in half. Yes, it may have restricted their options on their home but that never came into play because they knew they wanted to keep things simple in that area.
For me, that is the only way marriage could work. Because I got seriously burned financially in my previous marriage, I could never, ever share money again. It's just a risk I could never take.
But like I said, it's probably a moot point.LOL
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