SAHM's and Money
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SAHM's and Money
| Fri, 06-23-2006 - 1:57pm |
I am a WOHM but have always felt like this, even as a kid. I know it is probably wrong, but it is a strong feeling I have had.
When SAHM's say "I bought this or "I saved MY money for this", I always want to say "YOUR" money? Now, don't get me wrong, my mom was a SAHM and a great one at that but she would get spending money every week, just like I do, while working, but I can't feel technically that it was "HER" money.
Staying home is a hard job, being home today I can say that it is much harder to have a stressful out of the house job AND have kids but it is more physically demanding then my job.
I just feel that any money in the household has been made by the dh and is really "HIS" all the time. He just gives it to his wife to spend. I know this is horrible but I was wondering if anyone else felt this way?
When SAHM's say "I bought this or "I saved MY money for this", I always want to say "YOUR" money? Now, don't get me wrong, my mom was a SAHM and a great one at that but she would get spending money every week, just like I do, while working, but I can't feel technically that it was "HER" money.
Staying home is a hard job, being home today I can say that it is much harder to have a stressful out of the house job AND have kids but it is more physically demanding then my job.
I just feel that any money in the household has been made by the dh and is really "HIS" all the time. He just gives it to his wife to spend. I know this is horrible but I was wondering if anyone else felt this way?

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"***That still doesn't explain how the sahm helps him *earn* the money on his paycheck.***
Sure it does."
No it doesn't. How does you staying at home help him **earn** the money? You don't participate in the actual earning process, do you? You don't do his work for him. What you do is take care of everything else so your family can run smoothly and there's nothing wrong with that if it's what's best for your family. But *you* are not doing the work required to earn his actual paycheck. There's nothing wrong with admitting that. You contribute to the household and have every right to the money he earns at his job.
"He isn't on a salary. If he takes the day off he either takes sick time or he doesn't get paid. Not to mention leaving work often for illness is noted. It could affect his yearly evaluation and raise."
I thought cops were on a salary. Sorry.
"***Um... why?***
Conflicting schedules."
Arrangements can be made for a ten day fair. At least I think you said it was ten days... it *is* possible, you just wouldn't want to do it. Which is perfectly fine.
I live in Quebec. If I didn't go to the grocery store in bad weather I wouldn't go for most of the winter... or all of the june we just had. lol.
Just curious... what is the added inconvenience between going grocery shopping when it's raining and going when it's not? Besides putting the kids in a raincoat?
I'm pretty sure paid vacation time is a legal requirement in Canada... one day per month you've worked there... two weeks after a year, three weeks after five years. Even for employees paid by the hour, not just salaried employees. You can choose to work the whole year instead of taking a vacation... then you still get the vacation pay and your regular pay. That's how it is to the best of my knowledge. But I could be wrong.
"Early childhood SPED."
Sounds interesting and rewarding!
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