SAHM's and Money

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Registered: 04-27-2005
SAHM's and Money
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Fri, 06-23-2006 - 1:57pm
I am a WOHM but have always felt like this, even as a kid. I know it is probably wrong, but it is a strong feeling I have had.
When SAHM's say "I bought this or "I saved MY money for this", I always want to say "YOUR" money? Now, don't get me wrong, my mom was a SAHM and a great one at that but she would get spending money every week, just like I do, while working, but I can't feel technically that it was "HER" money.
Staying home is a hard job, being home today I can say that it is much harder to have a stressful out of the house job AND have kids but it is more physically demanding then my job.
I just feel that any money in the household has been made by the dh and is really "HIS" all the time. He just gives it to his wife to spend. I know this is horrible but I was wondering if anyone else felt this way?

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Registered: 05-17-2006
Sat, 07-01-2006 - 10:30pm
Oh I don't think me SAH has anything to do with my DH success. He is really good at his job and has worked hard to get there. However me SAH has made his career easier and it has made our marriage better because the hours that he works are hard on many couples. I will return to working when my children go to school. I have decided to be a teachers asst at the school that my children attend. The hours will be great LOL!
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Registered: 03-02-2005
Sat, 07-01-2006 - 10:35pm
Maybe it would help if he took a finance class. People can learn to be better with money usually.



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Registered: 03-02-2005
Sat, 07-01-2006 - 10:36pm
Like I said, every employment situation is different. Some employees are allowed more days off than others, some with penalties and some without. At my company the parents seem to take time off when they need to without penalty.



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Registered: 03-02-2005
Sat, 07-01-2006 - 10:46pm

"***That still doesn't explain how the sahm helps him *earn* the money on his paycheck.***

Sure it does."

No it doesn't. How does you staying at home help him **earn** the money? You don't participate in the actual earning process, do you? You don't do his work for him. What you do is take care of everything else so your family can run smoothly and there's nothing wrong with that if it's what's best for your family. But *you* are not doing the work required to earn his actual paycheck. There's nothing wrong with admitting that. You contribute to the household and have every right to the money he earns at his job.

"He isn't on a salary. If he takes the day off he either takes sick time or he doesn't get paid. Not to mention leaving work often for illness is noted. It could affect his yearly evaluation and raise."

I thought cops were on a salary. Sorry.

"***Um... why?***

Conflicting schedules."

Arrangements can be made for a ten day fair. At least I think you said it was ten days... it *is* possible, you just wouldn't want to do it. Which is perfectly fine.




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Registered: 03-02-2005
Sat, 07-01-2006 - 10:48pm

I live in Quebec. If I didn't go to the grocery store in bad weather I wouldn't go for most of the winter... or all of the june we just had. lol.

Just curious... what is the added inconvenience between going grocery shopping when it's raining and going when it's not? Besides putting the kids in a raincoat?




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Registered: 03-02-2005
Sat, 07-01-2006 - 10:53pm
Like I said, my parents didn't make us clean the whole house or anyting. We did a few things. Once I got a job I paid a bit of rent (only $100 a month) because I wanted to, not because they asked me to. I was in college at the time (i was 18). It may not have been 'necessary' for me to pay them rent but they were having a difficult time financially so I helped them out.



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Registered: 03-02-2005
Sat, 07-01-2006 - 11:00pm

I'm pretty sure paid vacation time is a legal requirement in Canada... one day per month you've worked there... two weeks after a year, three weeks after five years. Even for employees paid by the hour, not just salaried employees. You can choose to work the whole year instead of taking a vacation... then you still get the vacation pay and your regular pay. That's how it is to the best of my knowledge. But I could be wrong.

"Early childhood SPED."

Sounds interesting and rewarding!




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Registered: 03-23-2003
Sat, 07-01-2006 - 11:15pm
Then I guess he's always going to live up to your expectations.
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Sat, 07-01-2006 - 11:24pm
What would be the difference? I would still be bringing in a paycheck. At times my dh has brought more in and at times he didn't. We still had the same bills and still just put both checks together and paid them all.
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Sat, 07-01-2006 - 11:26pm
Gas, food, anything I want to contribute to at work: showers, water, lotto, pedicures in the summer. Anything that I want to buy without having to take it out of our bill money. Same with my dh.

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