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SAHM's and Money
| Fri, 06-23-2006 - 1:57pm |
I am a WOHM but have always felt like this, even as a kid. I know it is probably wrong, but it is a strong feeling I have had.
When SAHM's say "I bought this or "I saved MY money for this", I always want to say "YOUR" money? Now, don't get me wrong, my mom was a SAHM and a great one at that but she would get spending money every week, just like I do, while working, but I can't feel technically that it was "HER" money.
Staying home is a hard job, being home today I can say that it is much harder to have a stressful out of the house job AND have kids but it is more physically demanding then my job.
I just feel that any money in the household has been made by the dh and is really "HIS" all the time. He just gives it to his wife to spend. I know this is horrible but I was wondering if anyone else felt this way?
When SAHM's say "I bought this or "I saved MY money for this", I always want to say "YOUR" money? Now, don't get me wrong, my mom was a SAHM and a great one at that but she would get spending money every week, just like I do, while working, but I can't feel technically that it was "HER" money.
Staying home is a hard job, being home today I can say that it is much harder to have a stressful out of the house job AND have kids but it is more physically demanding then my job.
I just feel that any money in the household has been made by the dh and is really "HIS" all the time. He just gives it to his wife to spend. I know this is horrible but I was wondering if anyone else felt this way?

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That may be a requirement in Canada, I don't know Canadian employment law. I do not believe it is a requirement in the US, but I may be wrong. IME, vacation time and personal days were presented as benefits, much like 401Ks and health/dental/etc insurance. I do know that my DH doesn't get paid vacation or paid holidays b/c he isn't "salaried" he's commission-based.
Early childhood SPED was interesting and I loved it, but quite honestly, I love being home more. We'll see what happens in the future.
But don't you consider gas and food household expenses? I mean, you've got to eat and put gas in the cars to function, don't you?
I'm just curious what you think SAHMs shouldn't be using "their husband's money" to buy.
I guess the real question is: Why would you marry and then conceive a child with such a person?
And I don't mean this to sound snarky; I'm genuinely perplexed. According to your descriptions, there isn't one redeeming character trait possessed by your dh. And you certainly cannot claim ignorance if you have known him at least 8 years ago and you "know how he works".
I don't get it. What's the appeal?
No, gas has never been in our budget, we have always, for the last 13 years taken it out of our spending money. Never saw the difference if was coming out of the checking account anyway.
Food is not the weekly food but if we want to go out to lunch on the weekends, buy a pizza during the week or if I want to get a snack at work. My dh and I LOVE food-lol and are always trying something new and treating each other for little things.
In your OP, you said:
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What if you can do that on one salary? What if you aren't struggling and are completely, totally fine on one income? Why should the other partner work if they would rather be home and their income isn't necessary?
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