SAHM's and Money
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SAHM's and Money
| Fri, 06-23-2006 - 1:57pm |
I am a WOHM but have always felt like this, even as a kid. I know it is probably wrong, but it is a strong feeling I have had.
When SAHM's say "I bought this or "I saved MY money for this", I always want to say "YOUR" money? Now, don't get me wrong, my mom was a SAHM and a great one at that but she would get spending money every week, just like I do, while working, but I can't feel technically that it was "HER" money.
Staying home is a hard job, being home today I can say that it is much harder to have a stressful out of the house job AND have kids but it is more physically demanding then my job.
I just feel that any money in the household has been made by the dh and is really "HIS" all the time. He just gives it to his wife to spend. I know this is horrible but I was wondering if anyone else felt this way?
When SAHM's say "I bought this or "I saved MY money for this", I always want to say "YOUR" money? Now, don't get me wrong, my mom was a SAHM and a great one at that but she would get spending money every week, just like I do, while working, but I can't feel technically that it was "HER" money.
Staying home is a hard job, being home today I can say that it is much harder to have a stressful out of the house job AND have kids but it is more physically demanding then my job.
I just feel that any money in the household has been made by the dh and is really "HIS" all the time. He just gives it to his wife to spend. I know this is horrible but I was wondering if anyone else felt this way?

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I originally said one day. I know kids are sick for longer, but I had said one day. I guess in Sweden you can't take one day without penalty but most places you can since like you said in the states there is vacation and sick days.
I work in a very small workplace - only about 10 people work there. It's not discussing with "random people", we all know each other quite well and we know how the workplace works wrt time off. I took an hour and a half off to go take my driving test and wasn't penalized. The boss, sales manager, and customer service manager took a friday afternoon off to go play golf and I'm assuming they weren't penalized. I mean, the company even pays someone to help renovate the sales manager's house! lol.
You're avoiding the question. I want to know what the added inconvenience is between going grocery shopping in the rain and going grocery shopping in beautiful weather besides putting raincoats on the kids.
I'm not going to wait seven years until I have two kids and do it for myself - I want to know what the added inconvenience is for YOU so I can understand why YOU won't go grocery shopping in the rain. Again, the shopping doesn't take place in the rain. You're in the rain from house-car, car-store, store-car, car-house.
Please do explain why it's so horrible to go grocery shopping in the rain. I want to understand.
Does something have to be hard to be avoided if possible? Can't it just be personal preference? Why should anyone have to take their kids shopping in the rain if they don't want to? Are there extra points awarded for doing so?
I never took my kids grocery shopping if it could be avoided, sometimes it was a possible and sometimes not.
"Why should anyone have to take their kids shopping in the rain if they don't want to?"
They shouldn't have to. I asked why it was an added inconvenience and she just says "you do it then get back to me." That's not an answer! I just want to know why she finds it more challenging so I can understand! I mean, most people aren't physically shopping in the rain unless they are at a farmer's market or sidewalk sale.
When the SAHP is managing the household life is much easier for the working parent. The working parent is able to focus more on their career. "
Absolutely agree 100%. I see this in our home and many other exec's I know. They would have a tougher time focusing and therefore succeeding, if their partner wasnt keeping the homefront glued together.
"Does something have to be hard to be avoided if possible? "
No, not at all. It can certainly be personal preference with no reference to how hard or easy an activity is. But imo there is definitely a suggestion that one would naturally find shopping in the rain with children more difficult if only one had the experience in the following exchange:
guibea3: "Just curious... what is the added inconvenience between going grocery shopping when it's raining and going when it's not? Besides putting the kids in a raincoat?"
copwife35: "Again go shopping with 2 children in tow for 5 people then add bad weather then let me know how it went."
I'm just trying to figure out what the extra inconvenience is. Of course shopping with kids in tow is more work, but I honestly didn't feel that bad weather added to the work in any way, so I am genuinely curious what makes it feel like extra work on top of the usual work.
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