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SAHM's and Money
| Fri, 06-23-2006 - 1:57pm |
I am a WOHM but have always felt like this, even as a kid. I know it is probably wrong, but it is a strong feeling I have had.
When SAHM's say "I bought this or "I saved MY money for this", I always want to say "YOUR" money? Now, don't get me wrong, my mom was a SAHM and a great one at that but she would get spending money every week, just like I do, while working, but I can't feel technically that it was "HER" money.
Staying home is a hard job, being home today I can say that it is much harder to have a stressful out of the house job AND have kids but it is more physically demanding then my job.
I just feel that any money in the household has been made by the dh and is really "HIS" all the time. He just gives it to his wife to spend. I know this is horrible but I was wondering if anyone else felt this way?
When SAHM's say "I bought this or "I saved MY money for this", I always want to say "YOUR" money? Now, don't get me wrong, my mom was a SAHM and a great one at that but she would get spending money every week, just like I do, while working, but I can't feel technically that it was "HER" money.
Staying home is a hard job, being home today I can say that it is much harder to have a stressful out of the house job AND have kids but it is more physically demanding then my job.
I just feel that any money in the household has been made by the dh and is really "HIS" all the time. He just gives it to his wife to spend. I know this is horrible but I was wondering if anyone else felt this way?

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When my former SO and I were together, it was much, much easier for me to shop with all 4 kids than it ever had been with just Joel. Even if it wasn't always constructive (LOL!) the attention was on each other instead of me.
It's better now that he's older but when he was younger and it was just Joel & me, I was faced with trying to read labels and count carbs while at the same time answering a thousand questions about global warming, the current state of the government of Moldova, and why soup cans are red and white. I can multi-task right along with the next guy, but that was always a special challenge for me. ;-)
I have never said it was horrible. Let me put it to you this way, because debating this is really sort of silly.
1. Go to the grocery store when there is no rain and no snow.
2. Go to the grocery store when it is pouring or snowing.
Which would you chose if given the choice? Not a horrific need to go to the store, just time to go but you won't go hungry.
***If it's nothing to you and entirely irrelevant to the debate then why did you bring it up?***
Actually I didn't say this either. I wonder why you continue to put words in my mouth. But just to answer some of your question....this came from a scheduling debate. I added that sometimes you can't stick to a schedule such as grocery shopping because it might be raining. I had no idea it would fascinate so many that I wouldn't want to go grocery shopping in the rain with two children.
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