SAHM's and Money

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SAHM's and Money
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Fri, 06-23-2006 - 1:57pm
I am a WOHM but have always felt like this, even as a kid. I know it is probably wrong, but it is a strong feeling I have had.
When SAHM's say "I bought this or "I saved MY money for this", I always want to say "YOUR" money? Now, don't get me wrong, my mom was a SAHM and a great one at that but she would get spending money every week, just like I do, while working, but I can't feel technically that it was "HER" money.
Staying home is a hard job, being home today I can say that it is much harder to have a stressful out of the house job AND have kids but it is more physically demanding then my job.
I just feel that any money in the household has been made by the dh and is really "HIS" all the time. He just gives it to his wife to spend. I know this is horrible but I was wondering if anyone else felt this way?

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Registered: 06-30-2006
Sun, 07-02-2006 - 8:56pm
You posted something like "let me know when you have to take 2 kids to the store and add in bad weather" or to that effect; I wouldn't want to put words into your mouth.

Sabina

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Sun, 07-02-2006 - 8:58pm

I read your op as, in your viewpoint, no one goes grocery shopping in the rain. And I resonded accordingly. After reading the rest of your posts, I see that, for whatever reason, that was not your intended message.

Chris

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Sun, 07-02-2006 - 9:00pm

I'm not sure that's any better. Dylan doesn't have Joel's limitations. And I suspect that makes Dylan "easier" than Joel.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Sun, 07-02-2006 - 9:03pm
Makes perfect sense, but again, if it doesn't matter to you whether your days get

Sabina

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Sun, 07-02-2006 - 9:42pm

"I believe anyone can know about children, whether they are a parent or not. But, there are SOME things that you learn once you become a parent. Things are not as easy as you would think they should be or as they seem."

I know there are things I will learn once I become a parent. I never said otherwise. I was simply wondering about her reason for not wanting to go in the rain. Everyone else has answered, she has just said "you do it then get back to me." A few have even asked her as well, saying they don't really see a difference. I was honestly just curious about her reason, I wasn't trying to be a smart @ss.




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Sun, 07-02-2006 - 9:53pm

"I have never said it was horrible. Let me put it to you this way, because debating this is really sort of silly.

1. Go to the grocery store when there is no rain and no snow.

2. Go to the grocery store when it is pouring or snowing.

Which would you chose if given the choice?"

I would go when I felt like it. Like I said, I live in Quebec. If I never went in bad blizzardy/way too cold weather I would starve all winter. If I never went in the rain I would have starved all through June. It rained almost every single day. DH and I have never had a car... we get one tomorrow. We bussed it or walked. If I can walk uphill after going to the grocery store in minus forty weather while it's snowing for half an hour I guess I don't see why I wouldn't grocery shop, with car as transportation, in the rain. I've walked that hill in scorching heat, pouring rain, bitter cold, etc. lol.

Weather doesn't make much difference to me... I don't see it as an inconvenience. I'm a 'take it as it comes' kind of person I guess. I mean my graduation ceremony last month was outside in pouring rain... we were given ponchos, it was cold, everyone was soaking. While everyone was in a rage and complaining I was like "yay graduation!" haha. I stayed until the very last person graduated and we filed into the gym. There were maybe twenty other graduates who had the decency to stay until the end.




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Sun, 07-02-2006 - 11:09pm

That's exactly how I see it, which is why it was so interesting to me. Honestly, barring extreme circumstances (wherein dangerous conditions exist or businesses are closed), weather is just something that happens around me. It has about as much impact on my day-to-day life as what color shirt my neighbor is wearing.

That's all there is to it. I'm interested in what makes people tick, particularly when their experiences are so far from my own. And since my unique situation renders me unable to contribute anything meaningful to this debate (eye-roll) I kinda backed off from that part. Now I come here mostly to hear about other people and try to understand their perspectives, and to get a few laughs occasionally. Kinda like virtual people-watching, I guess. ;-)




Edited 7/3/2006 7:38 am ET by lauren1063

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Mon, 07-03-2006 - 1:26am
RIght. So you just throw out extremely exaggerated numbers as proof of your overinflated point but have nothing to back it up? Okay.
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Mon, 07-03-2006 - 9:01am
I never thought you were being a smart-a**.
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Mon, 07-03-2006 - 9:04am
I am not really sure how you are bringing that context forth but I will say since that post wasn't directed at you I can see why you were confused. The poster that I was responding to doesn't have children. That is why I said what I said. When someone doesn't have children it is sort of hard to discuss why something is the way it is when you have children.

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