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SAHM's and Money
| Fri, 06-23-2006 - 1:57pm |
I am a WOHM but have always felt like this, even as a kid. I know it is probably wrong, but it is a strong feeling I have had.
When SAHM's say "I bought this or "I saved MY money for this", I always want to say "YOUR" money? Now, don't get me wrong, my mom was a SAHM and a great one at that but she would get spending money every week, just like I do, while working, but I can't feel technically that it was "HER" money.
Staying home is a hard job, being home today I can say that it is much harder to have a stressful out of the house job AND have kids but it is more physically demanding then my job.
I just feel that any money in the household has been made by the dh and is really "HIS" all the time. He just gives it to his wife to spend. I know this is horrible but I was wondering if anyone else felt this way?
When SAHM's say "I bought this or "I saved MY money for this", I always want to say "YOUR" money? Now, don't get me wrong, my mom was a SAHM and a great one at that but she would get spending money every week, just like I do, while working, but I can't feel technically that it was "HER" money.
Staying home is a hard job, being home today I can say that it is much harder to have a stressful out of the house job AND have kids but it is more physically demanding then my job.
I just feel that any money in the household has been made by the dh and is really "HIS" all the time. He just gives it to his wife to spend. I know this is horrible but I was wondering if anyone else felt this way?

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So is my parents house that we bought, not our house because they helped with the downpayment? They don't pay the mortgage every month, we do.
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Money is the main reason of family quarrels and divorce.
An Economist Jay Zagorsky from the University of Ohio (Ohio State) has analyzed the results of a 40-years research project during which he interviewed about 33,000 people.
In 1960 researchers started to ask Americans from all over the country, on a no-name’s basis, questions about their private lives, including their attitude toward money. Zagorsky found that many men had disagreements with their own wives concerning money.
It was discovered that money was the most popular occasion for family quarrels and divorce. This is because husbands and wives have different representations about the family income and the income of each spouse.
Husbands can exaggerate incomes, and to wives their debts. Thus, their spouses think that they make less than they say they do. Husbands and wives have different concepts of each other’s financial worlds.
This is from legalhelpmate.com/news/divorce-news-2.aspx
"Dh and I are both salary but we lose 20% of our income for any days we spend at home with sick kids."
Do you mean always, or only once you've exceeded your annual allotted leave?
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