SAHMs: can't do anything right

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SAHMs: can't do anything right
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Wed, 12-06-2006 - 8:11am

I've noticed in the lifestyles thread that almost everything SAHM's do is immediately knocked down or one-upped. I don't see that the same is true for the WOHM's on the thread. Some examples:

If a SAHM cleans the house during the day, she isn't spending quality time with her children, or any more time with her children than do WOHM's. If she doesn't clean the house, she is being overinvolved with her children and interacting too much with them; she's not giving them time for free play.

If a SAHM teaches her children, she is an overachiever who is trying to produce an Einstein, not allowing her children to develop at their own rate, buying into commercialism. If she doesn't teach her children, she is just leaving them to their own devices while she gets "me time" or isn't providing them with the opportunities that daycare or preschool provides.

If a SAHM tries to socialize her children by letting them interact with other children on a regular basis, that's very nice, but kids of WOHM's in day care get MORE interaction, which is obviously BETTER. If a SAHM doesn't plan plenty of socialization activities, she isn't preparing her children for school.

If a SAHM tries to schedule regular activities and outings for her children, she's producing "jaded" children, forgoing a routine, "working too hard," wasting time driving around, and not providing enough time for her children to explore and investigate their own environment. If she doesn't schedule regular activities and outings, then her children are deprived of the many wonderful, exciting experiences that all day cares have to offer.

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So tell me, WOHM's, is there anything short of returning to work that SAHM's could do right?

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Tue, 12-12-2006 - 1:33pm

I didn't say anything about

PumpkinAngel

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Tue, 12-12-2006 - 1:38pm
Working people...have benefits. That is not unique. It would only be unique if it were special benefits only to WOHM and not to the entire staff. That has nothing to do with a working mother. Every person you work with gets benefits not just working mothers. You still have listed anything unique about being a WOHM.
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Tue, 12-12-2006 - 1:47pm

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LoL, you choose to respond to the post and you ignored the contents in that post.

PumpkinAngel

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Tue, 12-12-2006 - 1:51pm

<<Working people...have benefits. That is not unique>>


Let me try this again.

PumpkinAngel

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Tue, 12-12-2006 - 3:27pm

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I ignored the statements? I didn't respond to her post. I ASKED HER A QUESTION! What part of that are you not understanding?

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What are you talking about?

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No they aren't.

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That doesn't make them unique. Not at all. Many people have the same benefits that you do and they aren't parents. Unique...nope not at all.

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So no one else in your company gets the benefits that you do? Only you? If so then that is most definately unique.

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My point exactly. Whether you are a WOHP or just a working person you get these same rules. That is why WOH isn't unique. Everyone that does it has it.

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I disagree

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Tue, 12-12-2006 - 3:29pm

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Then what you are saying has absolutely nothing to do with what we were speaking about. The debate is how is being a WOHP unique? It isn't. Just as sah isn't unique.

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Because we are speaking on the terms of WOHM/SAHM being unique. Not one thing you have listed has anything to do with that.

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BUT not to WOHP...which is what the debate is about.

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Tue, 12-12-2006 - 4:22pm

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No, that's not what I said.

PumpkinAngel

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Tue, 12-12-2006 - 4:28pm

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Sure it does, just read the post.

PumpkinAngel

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Tue, 12-12-2006 - 5:28pm

"i think its interesting that you focus so much on dependency, and self sufficiency."

What's so interesting about it?

You may be a team but you are the part of the team that needs supporting right now. You are dependent on him for a source of support.

I'm glad you are so able to just jump back into the work force. In a day when so many who are actively working can't find jobs, that's amazing. So what special skill do you posess that you can just jump back in when others are struggling with unemployment?

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Tue, 12-12-2006 - 5:29pm

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Isn't that the same as the statements? Sorry I didn't use the exact words you used. I guess we are back to those unwritten rules you seem to know about. I didn't say you didn't understand the question. However you continually post that I ignored the contents of the post. I wasn't responding to her post...I was asking her a question.

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Still no clue what you are talking about.

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Anyone can set aside money for a child to go to camp. My mother sets aside money every month to go towards her grandchildren's college fund. She isn't their parent. Still isn't a working parent deal. I hardly think that only working parents are contributing to 401K plans.

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See above.

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We are talking about WORKING PARENTS. Remember this board...debating whether to WOH or SAH when you have children?

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I thought you said that you followed the thread all the way back? Did you miss the part where we were debating the WOH/SAH of parents?

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See above.

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If you had followed the thread like you said you did you would know that we were discussing WOH and SAH parents. Instead we have wasted a lot of thread space on you not seeing that.

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