SAHMs: can't do anything right

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SAHMs: can't do anything right
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Wed, 12-06-2006 - 8:11am

I've noticed in the lifestyles thread that almost everything SAHM's do is immediately knocked down or one-upped. I don't see that the same is true for the WOHM's on the thread. Some examples:

If a SAHM cleans the house during the day, she isn't spending quality time with her children, or any more time with her children than do WOHM's. If she doesn't clean the house, she is being overinvolved with her children and interacting too much with them; she's not giving them time for free play.

If a SAHM teaches her children, she is an overachiever who is trying to produce an Einstein, not allowing her children to develop at their own rate, buying into commercialism. If she doesn't teach her children, she is just leaving them to their own devices while she gets "me time" or isn't providing them with the opportunities that daycare or preschool provides.

If a SAHM tries to socialize her children by letting them interact with other children on a regular basis, that's very nice, but kids of WOHM's in day care get MORE interaction, which is obviously BETTER. If a SAHM doesn't plan plenty of socialization activities, she isn't preparing her children for school.

If a SAHM tries to schedule regular activities and outings for her children, she's producing "jaded" children, forgoing a routine, "working too hard," wasting time driving around, and not providing enough time for her children to explore and investigate their own environment. If she doesn't schedule regular activities and outings, then her children are deprived of the many wonderful, exciting experiences that all day cares have to offer.

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So tell me, WOHM's, is there anything short of returning to work that SAHM's could do right?

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Wed, 12-13-2006 - 12:13pm
Where we live wouldn't change whether I WOH or not. I have explained that we made a path a long time ago to do what we do. We started at the bottom and worked our way up. It hasn't had a thing to do with how much money DH or I make it has all to do with planning. We will be selling our home within the next year or so and plan on renovating another home maybe two. Within those 2 homes we will no longer have a mortgage and the house of our dreams. I do know SAHM that their DH make a lot of money and they live and very good like and their SES wouldn't change a bit if they worked. I don't know why this blows you away. Is it that hard to grasp that people obtain their SES without paychecks?
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Wed, 12-13-2006 - 12:18pm

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PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 12-13-2006 - 12:21pm

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Well, then by all means take a moment to stop lol and explain to me how you could contribute to a 401k or how you could accrue money before taxes to pay for summer camp.

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Wed, 12-13-2006 - 12:24pm

<<it's what many do for the needs and wants in their lives but miles away from unqiue.....but i do agree sahms are.>>


Asking again.....what is unique about sahms?


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Wed, 12-13-2006 - 12:33pm

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Every post where you tell me that I ignored the content of her post and asked her a question. Remember that?

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You are right. Then again I wasn't the one that said I was confused.

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Again are we not allowed to ask a question? I wasn't answering the post that she wrote to rolyco, just asking her a question. I can see that you are confused. It is very apparent.

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I don't pay to post here. So I don't have that key.

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My point was people can save tax free for a lot of things.

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Well you said you had followed the thread. I can only go on what you have said you did. If you had followed the thread you would have seen the context to which we were speaking. So here we are, back to context.

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Context...context...context.

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Context...context...context.

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You have yet to show what is unique about anything that a WOHP does. Still waiting. A WOHP may accomplish having a 401K but that in no way is unique.

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First of all contributing to a 401K is not unique.... available to the WOH, and WAH but not unique and not to just WOHP, and WAHP. So still waiting for what is unique about WOHP.

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DING DING DING DING You said it right there. You can accomplish this but it isn't unique. BIG difference. Nothing unique about contributing to a 401K.

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LMAO...This is absolutely hysterical. There is NOTHING unique here. Not one thing. It is available but not unique. That would be like saying the preschool at the church 4 blocks from my home is unique to only SAHM. They only take children that have a SAHP. It isn't unique. It is available. Nothing unique about one thing you have stated. I have posted the definition of unique more than once. If you read that you will see nothing you have stated is unique. You accomplished this...it isn't unique.

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So which is it? Incorrect or did I ignore her? I couldn't have possibly done both yet you have accused me of both.

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What does my family have that yours doesn't.

My answer....A SAHM. That is about as correct as it gets.

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Wed, 12-13-2006 - 12:35pm

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This isn't unique.

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No you have said exclusive to WOH. This would be a unique thing if only one person got to do this within your company. It isn't unique...it is a benefit that you pay for.

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Wed, 12-13-2006 - 12:52pm
ITA. I think it is ridiculous. I had to fight to go on Clomid. However, I lay the blame completely with the insurance companies.
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Wed, 12-13-2006 - 12:56pm
So, how does a SAHP conribute to a 401K or take advantage of the child care tax credit? If that was explained, I missed it.

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Wed, 12-13-2006 - 1:05pm

I agree that the issues lies primarily at the feet of the insurance industry. However, the same industry is also behind clasifying impotence as a medical condition that requires and deserves a treatment which is fully covered by insurance plans. The recognition of impotence as a medical condition coincides, unabashedly, with the marketing of a new class of drugs that are now bringing the phara industry billions.

Their marketing campaign has been tremendously successful, too, of which the language used in this debate is but one example.

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Registered: 07-26-2006
Wed, 12-13-2006 - 1:33pm
They don't. But that doesn't mean it is unique.

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