SAHMs: can't do anything right

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SAHMs: can't do anything right
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Wed, 12-06-2006 - 8:11am

I've noticed in the lifestyles thread that almost everything SAHM's do is immediately knocked down or one-upped. I don't see that the same is true for the WOHM's on the thread. Some examples:

If a SAHM cleans the house during the day, she isn't spending quality time with her children, or any more time with her children than do WOHM's. If she doesn't clean the house, she is being overinvolved with her children and interacting too much with them; she's not giving them time for free play.

If a SAHM teaches her children, she is an overachiever who is trying to produce an Einstein, not allowing her children to develop at their own rate, buying into commercialism. If she doesn't teach her children, she is just leaving them to their own devices while she gets "me time" or isn't providing them with the opportunities that daycare or preschool provides.

If a SAHM tries to socialize her children by letting them interact with other children on a regular basis, that's very nice, but kids of WOHM's in day care get MORE interaction, which is obviously BETTER. If a SAHM doesn't plan plenty of socialization activities, she isn't preparing her children for school.

If a SAHM tries to schedule regular activities and outings for her children, she's producing "jaded" children, forgoing a routine, "working too hard," wasting time driving around, and not providing enough time for her children to explore and investigate their own environment. If she doesn't schedule regular activities and outings, then her children are deprived of the many wonderful, exciting experiences that all day cares have to offer.

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So tell me, WOHM's, is there anything short of returning to work that SAHM's could do right?

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Registered: 07-26-2006
Wed, 12-13-2006 - 2:06pm
With the price of insurance these days I disagree. It is horrible that someone has infertility issues. However it isn't medically necessary to live your life without giving birth, and it isn't medically necessary to have an erection. I think both of these should be paid out by the individual.
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Wed, 12-13-2006 - 2:06pm

I agree. I don't think insurance should pay for Viagra or infertility treatments.

Robin

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Wed, 12-13-2006 - 2:22pm

are you suggesting unique to be synonomous with exclusive/limited to? curious.

if that's it,then by all accounts,sahm have a unique ability to sah and raise their children full time,do the laundry,cook,volunteer and still have time for themselves. :)

and come to think of it,i'm having a hard time with evidence of thinkers outside the box in that theory,too.

 

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Wed, 12-13-2006 - 2:24pm

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No, it's talking about a single post.

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 12-13-2006 - 2:31pm

Again, then please explain how a sahp could do either.


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For what?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Wed, 12-13-2006 - 2:40pm
What I want is consistency. either recognize both as medical conditions and cover the costs of treatment, or consider both lifestlye choices and leave them up to the individual. I can understand arguments on both sides for and against - and I can accept that there are few clear answers. The salad-bar approach (with the misogynist undercurrent) is what irritates me most.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 12-13-2006 - 2:45pm

If you didn't WAH, would it change your SES?

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Registered: 12-06-2006
Wed, 12-13-2006 - 2:46pm
No! What are you talking about? Viagra sells sex. Doesn't matter what kind of sex it is, it sells it!
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Wed, 12-13-2006 - 2:46pm

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Such as what, other than the meaning I just described:

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Wed, 12-13-2006 - 2:47pm
IMO, covering ART may actually decreases medical costs. Infertility in a medical speciality with so few regulations and such high emotional and financial risks. It is one place where a dispassionate third party might be able to put some guidelines in place that are beneficial to everyone in the end. Multiple pregnancies and premature births are most likely far more expensive that some IF treatments. And I think many couples would accept some limitations and guidelines in exchange for not having to pay so much out of pocket.

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