SAHMs or SAHDs?
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|Wed, 04-09-2003 - 2:31pm|
The reason why women take care of the children is because society made it that way. A new mother is just much a clumsy fool just as a new dad. It's new to both of them. So who's to say, the dad can't be the one to remember schedules, feedings, diaper chages, doctor appts, etc, and the woman just help out like they do? Or have both do it all. (Of course this wouldn't work if yo breastfed, so disregard if you do). But it can work.
Just because there's a man in the house doesn't always mean he's the bread winner. What if the wife's the bread winner and if they wanted one parent to stay home, let it be the dad.
What would society do then in the place of employment? If fathers took just as much interest in their kids with the same responsibilities that the mother has always had, then who would the companies see as the best employee to do the job? If both genders need time off for leave, both need sick days for sick children, both could not travel too frequently and both can't work long hours, then who would be the best gender to hire then?
My husband and I take turns taking time off for pediatric appts, sick times, and personal business days. I think it should be that way if both parents work out of the home. This way neither employers of the parents can complain about too much time off. And trust me, if it came time to choose who stays at home, I'm the bread winner, so it would be him.
Does this make me any less of a mother? No. No more than it would make him less of a father if I stayed home and he worked.
What do you all think?