SAHM's place in a household
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| Sun, 05-30-2004 - 4:17pm |
They don't know me well enough and I just listened but I only do 60% of the housework and almost no cooking. My dh does almost all the shopping and takes the preschooler and baby and he likes to cook. He also works a job and earns a 6 figure salary occasionally doing overtime. He does all lawn and garbarge stuff. He also bathes both the kids. I do everything else plus the bills and if we have problems with anyone about anything my dh likes me to handle it since I can pit-bull anyone and calling the attorney general or the BBB is something I am familar with. I only mention it because these women did say their dh's were the ones to take care of business conflicts and the bills.
This got me thinking what do people consider a sahm role in the house to be? Obviously these women think in order to stay home and do your share, perhaps to make up for not bringing home a pay check, you do almost everything and if you don't you are obviously lazy. I have always thought of sahm as being more for the kids and me. My main concern is doing things with my kids as a family and showing them a good/educational time with their environment. It's really not to make my dh's life easier nor mine but if it happens anyway great. My dh married me for the person I am, not for what I could do to make his life easier. He would never think of degrading me nor threatening me over houswork which is one thing that alot of women in my playgroup said their dh's did.
So what is a sahm role or job duties in your personal opinion? Do you feel a person staying home should have to do more in order for it to be "fair" to the person working?

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Susan
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I guess you probably think you do.
Janet
It wasnt being a few nights a week.
Laura
We went away for Memorial Day. We were gone 4 days. There was no food in the house so I went grocery shopping. Not really my perogative as the kids would complain mightily if there were no food for their meals.
I also had ds conference this morning at the preschool. I really wanted to be there instead of at home. This is not really an optional excursion.
Tomorrow I have an appointment with the ped Endocrinologist to discuss the results of ds blood tests. I couldn't get the doctor to come here so I guess I will have to go there. Again, not a pleasure trip and NOT my perogative. We waited months to get an appointment with this doctor.
I don't really consider these things optional. They need to be done, although they are not technically housework. And some adult in the family needs to do them. It makes no sense for dh to do them so I do them. But it is not necessarily my perogative whether I am home or not.
I am very busy and keep a written calendar. I know I am not the only one.
Jenna
eileen
Would you believe we don't have a single cicada????!
Am I getting it right?
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