SAHM's place in a household
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| Sun, 05-30-2004 - 4:17pm |
They don't know me well enough and I just listened but I only do 60% of the housework and almost no cooking. My dh does almost all the shopping and takes the preschooler and baby and he likes to cook. He also works a job and earns a 6 figure salary occasionally doing overtime. He does all lawn and garbarge stuff. He also bathes both the kids. I do everything else plus the bills and if we have problems with anyone about anything my dh likes me to handle it since I can pit-bull anyone and calling the attorney general or the BBB is something I am familar with. I only mention it because these women did say their dh's were the ones to take care of business conflicts and the bills.
This got me thinking what do people consider a sahm role in the house to be? Obviously these women think in order to stay home and do your share, perhaps to make up for not bringing home a pay check, you do almost everything and if you don't you are obviously lazy. I have always thought of sahm as being more for the kids and me. My main concern is doing things with my kids as a family and showing them a good/educational time with their environment. It's really not to make my dh's life easier nor mine but if it happens anyway great. My dh married me for the person I am, not for what I could do to make his life easier. He would never think of degrading me nor threatening me over houswork which is one thing that alot of women in my playgroup said their dh's did.
So what is a sahm role or job duties in your personal opinion? Do you feel a person staying home should have to do more in order for it to be "fair" to the person working?

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In fact I had a discussion with dh who knows how much I loathe house cleaning. When I told him that was the major reason I never really wanted to SAH he thought that we would just keep our housekeeper and solve that problem. He really WANTS someone here with the kids.
Jenna
All I did today was go to the gym then go to my kids' playgroup.
If dh has to clean the kitchen every now and then it doesn't mean he is spending all night cleaning house. How long does it take to clean up a kitchen after dinner? 20 minutes tops? And how often is he expected to do it? Once a month? It really doesn't seem like that big a deal to me.
Jenna
Jenna
Jenna
http://www.news.cornell.edu/science/May97/parent.time2.SSL.html
Edited 6/2/2004 5:38 pm ET ET by grimalkinskeeper
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