SAHM's place in a household
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| Sun, 05-30-2004 - 4:17pm |
They don't know me well enough and I just listened but I only do 60% of the housework and almost no cooking. My dh does almost all the shopping and takes the preschooler and baby and he likes to cook. He also works a job and earns a 6 figure salary occasionally doing overtime. He does all lawn and garbarge stuff. He also bathes both the kids. I do everything else plus the bills and if we have problems with anyone about anything my dh likes me to handle it since I can pit-bull anyone and calling the attorney general or the BBB is something I am familar with. I only mention it because these women did say their dh's were the ones to take care of business conflicts and the bills.
This got me thinking what do people consider a sahm role in the house to be? Obviously these women think in order to stay home and do your share, perhaps to make up for not bringing home a pay check, you do almost everything and if you don't you are obviously lazy. I have always thought of sahm as being more for the kids and me. My main concern is doing things with my kids as a family and showing them a good/educational time with their environment. It's really not to make my dh's life easier nor mine but if it happens anyway great. My dh married me for the person I am, not for what I could do to make his life easier. He would never think of degrading me nor threatening me over houswork which is one thing that alot of women in my playgroup said their dh's did.
So what is a sahm role or job duties in your personal opinion? Do you feel a person staying home should have to do more in order for it to be "fair" to the person working?

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Also don't forget that WOHM's also have the same child issues as SAHM's. Do you think that a WOHM who has an infant and toddler to get up and dressed in the morning, a 15 minute commute (during which there is a daycare stop) an half an hour lunch break, the same 15 minute commute (again with daycare stop). Who then comes home to taking care of that infant and toddler is getting much down time. Unless she has a real skate job, not likely.
The age of the children has much more to do with how much downtime a parents gets then work status. A parent with school age children has more down time then a parent with infant/toddlers no matter what their work status.
so, your point is?
Edited to add: I do have my parents in town, but they're in their late 70s, and I usually choose not to expose them to whatever I have.
Edited 6/3/2004 8:25 am ET ET by pjp2
Well,
Unfortunatly Op123 Im not kidding.
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