SAHM's place in a household
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| Sun, 05-30-2004 - 4:17pm |
They don't know me well enough and I just listened but I only do 60% of the housework and almost no cooking. My dh does almost all the shopping and takes the preschooler and baby and he likes to cook. He also works a job and earns a 6 figure salary occasionally doing overtime. He does all lawn and garbarge stuff. He also bathes both the kids. I do everything else plus the bills and if we have problems with anyone about anything my dh likes me to handle it since I can pit-bull anyone and calling the attorney general or the BBB is something I am familar with. I only mention it because these women did say their dh's were the ones to take care of business conflicts and the bills.
This got me thinking what do people consider a sahm role in the house to be? Obviously these women think in order to stay home and do your share, perhaps to make up for not bringing home a pay check, you do almost everything and if you don't you are obviously lazy. I have always thought of sahm as being more for the kids and me. My main concern is doing things with my kids as a family and showing them a good/educational time with their environment. It's really not to make my dh's life easier nor mine but if it happens anyway great. My dh married me for the person I am, not for what I could do to make his life easier. He would never think of degrading me nor threatening me over houswork which is one thing that alot of women in my playgroup said their dh's did.
So what is a sahm role or job duties in your personal opinion? Do you feel a person staying home should have to do more in order for it to be "fair" to the person working?

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Thank you for answering but you really don't fit the question.
PumpkinAngel
Janet
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and many employees don't get sick leave.
DH likes to go on field trips because he can schedule them ahead of time. He has only been able to go on one this year because they limit the number of chaperones on field trips and supply always exceeds demand. He also participated in the Dr. Suess reading lunch hour. They made it around the lunch hour and many wohps made it to the school that day.
DH's participation in scheduled appointments and school events hasn't changed since I became a sahp. It is based on the flexiblity of his job and his want (and DS's want) to have him come to certain events.
When I worked we split the kids sick days 50/50, but now I am home with them. That is an advantage to having a sahp. The disadvantage is that DH (if he is not travelling), has to stay home if I have a knock down drag out migraine, but luckily those have subsided some.
We don't measure our chores or time with the kids to make sure each of us is doing our fair share. It seems all to work out in the end - the house is relatively clena, the kids are relatively happy and we are relatively exhausted.
Janet
She used to write a note for the store owner telling him the smokes were for her.
outside_the_box_mom
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