SAHM's place in a household
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| Sun, 05-30-2004 - 4:17pm |
They don't know me well enough and I just listened but I only do 60% of the housework and almost no cooking. My dh does almost all the shopping and takes the preschooler and baby and he likes to cook. He also works a job and earns a 6 figure salary occasionally doing overtime. He does all lawn and garbarge stuff. He also bathes both the kids. I do everything else plus the bills and if we have problems with anyone about anything my dh likes me to handle it since I can pit-bull anyone and calling the attorney general or the BBB is something I am familar with. I only mention it because these women did say their dh's were the ones to take care of business conflicts and the bills.
This got me thinking what do people consider a sahm role in the house to be? Obviously these women think in order to stay home and do your share, perhaps to make up for not bringing home a pay check, you do almost everything and if you don't you are obviously lazy. I have always thought of sahm as being more for the kids and me. My main concern is doing things with my kids as a family and showing them a good/educational time with their environment. It's really not to make my dh's life easier nor mine but if it happens anyway great. My dh married me for the person I am, not for what I could do to make his life easier. He would never think of degrading me nor threatening me over houswork which is one thing that alot of women in my playgroup said their dh's did.
So what is a sahm role or job duties in your personal opinion? Do you feel a person staying home should have to do more in order for it to be "fair" to the person working?

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He can cuddle her, give her the antibiotics, bathe her to reduce the fever, read to her & sleep with her to create a comfortable environment when he gets home after we are done at the dr.
*My* point was that there are (were - since it has been a very long time since I was in a care position myself) dayhome providers that do things that are completely inappropriate, and that finding a good care provider of any kind can be difficult.
He wants his kids at home with their mother and he is making sacrefices to make that happen. The eat together most nights of the week (more than I can say for most families I know) and spend time together on the weekends. Sounds like a nice arrangement to me...although I couldn't deal with the military aspect (being gone for extended periods)...that would just be too hard for *me*. But I admire her willingness to make it work.
Lay off.
Meldi
I didn't read the whole sub-thread ... in *most* cases, the SAHP home with a sick kid would be sufficient.
However, depends on how sick said kid is and what other kids are in the household, etc. In any case, its not "screwing" your employer; its an earned benefit.
Hollie
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Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color. Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.
I really don't think we can order our world in such a way as to accomodate 5 year olds who can realistically be expected to do something as stupid as jump on a stove door the minute they are left unsupervised. That sounds like a very troubled child. What the heck would such a kid do if let loose in a school bathroom? Kids of that nature in our school system have aids attached to them and they occur at a rate of about 1/50 or 1/100 kids (in our school). And the few I know of are autistic.
Just the other night my DS cut his head open because of something stupid *I DID*. Could it have happened when he was in DC? Yes, although it never did. My boys have been hurt in their own home with ME or my parents present more than they ever were at DC.
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