SAHM's place in a household
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| Sun, 05-30-2004 - 4:17pm |
They don't know me well enough and I just listened but I only do 60% of the housework and almost no cooking. My dh does almost all the shopping and takes the preschooler and baby and he likes to cook. He also works a job and earns a 6 figure salary occasionally doing overtime. He does all lawn and garbarge stuff. He also bathes both the kids. I do everything else plus the bills and if we have problems with anyone about anything my dh likes me to handle it since I can pit-bull anyone and calling the attorney general or the BBB is something I am familar with. I only mention it because these women did say their dh's were the ones to take care of business conflicts and the bills.
This got me thinking what do people consider a sahm role in the house to be? Obviously these women think in order to stay home and do your share, perhaps to make up for not bringing home a pay check, you do almost everything and if you don't you are obviously lazy. I have always thought of sahm as being more for the kids and me. My main concern is doing things with my kids as a family and showing them a good/educational time with their environment. It's really not to make my dh's life easier nor mine but if it happens anyway great. My dh married me for the person I am, not for what I could do to make his life easier. He would never think of degrading me nor threatening me over houswork which is one thing that alot of women in my playgroup said their dh's did.
So what is a sahm role or job duties in your personal opinion? Do you feel a person staying home should have to do more in order for it to be "fair" to the person working?

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No acording to his mother having the whole stove fall on his leg broke the bone clean though.
No see you still dont get it but thats fine.
Lets see He doesnt want to come home from a VERY STRESSFUL job, and then deal with his wife leaving every day for 7 hours while he has to then cook dinner, and deal with everything else.
Nikole, I'm with Sue ... I'm trying hard not to be insulted.
Linda - wife, mother, grandmum &nb
Oh you are so right. When I was single living in apartments here and there, I had soooo many clothes and underwear - I could never get to the laundromat!
Right now, I do probably 10 loads
Mondo
Well gee.
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