SAHM's place in a household
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| Sun, 05-30-2004 - 4:17pm |
They don't know me well enough and I just listened but I only do 60% of the housework and almost no cooking. My dh does almost all the shopping and takes the preschooler and baby and he likes to cook. He also works a job and earns a 6 figure salary occasionally doing overtime. He does all lawn and garbarge stuff. He also bathes both the kids. I do everything else plus the bills and if we have problems with anyone about anything my dh likes me to handle it since I can pit-bull anyone and calling the attorney general or the BBB is something I am familar with. I only mention it because these women did say their dh's were the ones to take care of business conflicts and the bills.
This got me thinking what do people consider a sahm role in the house to be? Obviously these women think in order to stay home and do your share, perhaps to make up for not bringing home a pay check, you do almost everything and if you don't you are obviously lazy. I have always thought of sahm as being more for the kids and me. My main concern is doing things with my kids as a family and showing them a good/educational time with their environment. It's really not to make my dh's life easier nor mine but if it happens anyway great. My dh married me for the person I am, not for what I could do to make his life easier. He would never think of degrading me nor threatening me over houswork which is one thing that alot of women in my playgroup said their dh's did.
So what is a sahm role or job duties in your personal opinion? Do you feel a person staying home should have to do more in order for it to be "fair" to the person working?

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Well, on the days I work, I don't take my kids to school or shopping with me. We interact for more than a few minutes in the car, while we're getting ready, while eating breakfast. We interact the ENTIRE time I'm at the grocery store with them...usually over an hour. We interact while we play baseball, soccer and board games.
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Like I said, of course you'll get those results if you perform the study over 18 YEARS. How about a short-term study of pre school-aged kids? I DO spend more time interacting with my kids on the days I'm home. Short of leaving the house or locking myself in the closet, there's no way I couldn't.
I'm not speculating about 10 years from now.
Jenna
Jenna
Im sorry that you were insulted.
Jenna
Thanks.
What difference does it make as long as ONE OF US is taking them?
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Um, yeah, one of us can go to work while the other takes care of the kids too. Should I ask DH to take off for a doctor's appointment and go get my nails done? If there "no need for both of us" to be there, what do you suggest I do in the meantime?
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Am I crazy? Or is that just common sense?
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