SAHM's place in a household
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| Sun, 05-30-2004 - 4:17pm |
They don't know me well enough and I just listened but I only do 60% of the housework and almost no cooking. My dh does almost all the shopping and takes the preschooler and baby and he likes to cook. He also works a job and earns a 6 figure salary occasionally doing overtime. He does all lawn and garbarge stuff. He also bathes both the kids. I do everything else plus the bills and if we have problems with anyone about anything my dh likes me to handle it since I can pit-bull anyone and calling the attorney general or the BBB is something I am familar with. I only mention it because these women did say their dh's were the ones to take care of business conflicts and the bills.
This got me thinking what do people consider a sahm role in the house to be? Obviously these women think in order to stay home and do your share, perhaps to make up for not bringing home a pay check, you do almost everything and if you don't you are obviously lazy. I have always thought of sahm as being more for the kids and me. My main concern is doing things with my kids as a family and showing them a good/educational time with their environment. It's really not to make my dh's life easier nor mine but if it happens anyway great. My dh married me for the person I am, not for what I could do to make his life easier. He would never think of degrading me nor threatening me over houswork which is one thing that alot of women in my playgroup said their dh's did.
So what is a sahm role or job duties in your personal opinion? Do you feel a person staying home should have to do more in order for it to be "fair" to the person working?

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Not everyone has that option. Some people don't have family around that are able and/or willing to help. The mortgage still has to get paid, food needs to be provided, and health insurance needs to be paid for. Many families are unable to do that on one income, and are unable to quit work just because a family member can not provide child care.
Gee, do you not know anything about parenting?
My husbands grandmother in Europe has no on-site laundry facilities. They use the sink and the bathtub. Incredibly she managed to run the house and look after him while his Mom worked. I suspect where laundry facilities are scarce a good deal of handwashing still occurs.
Judging from the number of kids:DH leaves ratio you have, I'd say your definitely making "time" for your marriage ;) ;)
Mondo
Please stop imposing your own personal feelings onto everyone else.
Oh I forgot, it is grimlin we are talking to here lol
My dd is independent, wants to do things for herself as well.
What?
Or do you think you have to be in charge if you are in the room?
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