SAHM's place in a household
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| Sun, 05-30-2004 - 4:17pm |
They don't know me well enough and I just listened but I only do 60% of the housework and almost no cooking. My dh does almost all the shopping and takes the preschooler and baby and he likes to cook. He also works a job and earns a 6 figure salary occasionally doing overtime. He does all lawn and garbarge stuff. He also bathes both the kids. I do everything else plus the bills and if we have problems with anyone about anything my dh likes me to handle it since I can pit-bull anyone and calling the attorney general or the BBB is something I am familar with. I only mention it because these women did say their dh's were the ones to take care of business conflicts and the bills.
This got me thinking what do people consider a sahm role in the house to be? Obviously these women think in order to stay home and do your share, perhaps to make up for not bringing home a pay check, you do almost everything and if you don't you are obviously lazy. I have always thought of sahm as being more for the kids and me. My main concern is doing things with my kids as a family and showing them a good/educational time with their environment. It's really not to make my dh's life easier nor mine but if it happens anyway great. My dh married me for the person I am, not for what I could do to make his life easier. He would never think of degrading me nor threatening me over houswork which is one thing that alot of women in my playgroup said their dh's did.
So what is a sahm role or job duties in your personal opinion? Do you feel a person staying home should have to do more in order for it to be "fair" to the person working?

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All I can say is.... WHAT A MAN!!! LOL.
Mondo
I agree & you would think this had already been discovered :0)
Back in the day...a dcp could also drive kids around and not bother to use seat belts or child restraints. I was driven hundreds of miles to our new home, and my travel bed was a laundry basket in the back of a station wagon. My parents did that. Are you saying therefore that parents ought not be trusted with the right to drive their kids around in cars, because back in the day, many of them didn't even use seatbelts or child seats? How inappropriate can you get.
You have to correct for time and place. Or you have no point.
Mondo
<> Okay, I don't get your thinking here. He is their parent. What is so bad about him coming home from work and dealing with the kids? He and his DW are switching roles in the evening. Why is that so bad? It's not what I would want, but I also would not want my DH working two jobs just so he didn't have to handle *his* kids ALONE at night. *She* can handle them ALONE all day long, why can't he handle them ALONE for a few hours in the evening?
The child benefits from seeing both parents attend to these things in turn, rather than the same parent do it every time.
LOL... I know.
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