SAHM/WOHD Issue
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| Thu, 07-13-2006 - 4:35pm |
My husband came home the other day with this story:
His coworker, J and J's wife, K just had a set of twins born via in-vitro after 17 years of marriage and infertility. Anyway, the end of the pregnancy was difficult and K was on bedrest and the babies were born (I think) 6 weeks early - one of them had to stay in the hospital for 2 weeks after birth. OK - that's the background.
K got a lot of attention during pregnancy - not being able to move around on her own. Now the babies are 4 months old, but although she is a SAHM, she expects (yes, expects) J to leave work every day at 4. That's the normal time, but at times they are required to work overtime if something has broken and needs to be fixed before the next shift comes in. According to my husband, J comes home every night and fixes dinner, washes bottles, takes care of the babies, and then gets up with them in the middle of the night. The only time K is bothered with them is during the day when she's home alone. (I know, this account is how J related it to my husband, so the story is probably more one-sided than the situation really is.) And K may have post-partum depression and that can explain needing J so much....
K's mom and sister both lives within a halfmile of her and can come to help with the babies, but she expects J to leave work everyday at 4 to do it. She also calls a lot during the day. Anyway, the other day something had broken and J needed to stay past 4, but he tried to leave - my husband's and J's boss told J that he needed to decide what is more important - him taking care of those babies or him working to provide for those babies? Sounds to me like J's job is starting to be in jeopardy and he makes pretty good money for the area of the country we live in. Replacing that income would be very hard.
Just wanted to see what y'all thought about this.

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Really? The whole FEMALE thing was an accidental caps lock? So accidental that you had to repeat the sentiment?
And if you want to ask a private question, send an email. This is a public forum, where every post you make is open to response by any other poster.
I don't think so....
I would consider an "engineer" to be an actual engineer with a Bachelors in Engineering...such as Civi, Mechanical, Electrical, Chemical...
One of my friends is an "audio engineer" - that might be his title, but he didn't go through 4 years of university, with 6 courses a semester for the first two years (attempting to be weeded out) so to me, he's not a "real" engineer. He may work really hard, and his job might be very stressful, but sorry...My mom is a petroleum Engineer, and my dad is an electrical engineer, and one of my good friends is a chemical engineer....those are engineers
Jennie
Jennie
"And not sure why you try to make it sound so important. In my neck of the woods, you can't swing a cat without hitting an engineer."
same with my neck of the woods...as i said...Im surrounded by them, such as family and tons of friends, and it's one of the largest faculties at my university. That doesn't mean that any of them aren't actual engineers. They all have their iron rings, and their degrees. Not all of them are "professional" designation, since you have to join the association for that.
In regards to the training...technically you are an "enginneer" as soon as you finish your iron ring cerimony....but unoficially are an "EIT" Engineer in Training for a few years (2-3).
Not anyone is an engineer....they have to have a degree in "engineering"
Here, it's now a degreed profession too and you're an engineer in training for a few years after you graduate. How many depends on the job. Most engineers are considered professionals but without a P.E. you do not use the title "Professional Engineer" unless you do have your P.E. The title indicates you have passed the engineering exams. Which aren't very populat here. It's not like the Bar exams for a lawyer where you have to take them to practice. You're an engineer once out of training but only a "Professional Engineer" once you've passed both exams.
However, I am rather perplexed that we're even discussing this here. I was asked what I do for a living and I answered. Then I challened when I was told just about everyone can claim to be an engineer. I don't see why that is objectionable. I fail to see where just about anyone can claim to be an engineer.
FTR, I do not have a P.E. so I'm just an engineer.
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