SAHM/WOHD Issue
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| Thu, 07-13-2006 - 4:35pm |
My husband came home the other day with this story:
His coworker, J and J's wife, K just had a set of twins born via in-vitro after 17 years of marriage and infertility. Anyway, the end of the pregnancy was difficult and K was on bedrest and the babies were born (I think) 6 weeks early - one of them had to stay in the hospital for 2 weeks after birth. OK - that's the background.
K got a lot of attention during pregnancy - not being able to move around on her own. Now the babies are 4 months old, but although she is a SAHM, she expects (yes, expects) J to leave work every day at 4. That's the normal time, but at times they are required to work overtime if something has broken and needs to be fixed before the next shift comes in. According to my husband, J comes home every night and fixes dinner, washes bottles, takes care of the babies, and then gets up with them in the middle of the night. The only time K is bothered with them is during the day when she's home alone. (I know, this account is how J related it to my husband, so the story is probably more one-sided than the situation really is.) And K may have post-partum depression and that can explain needing J so much....
K's mom and sister both lives within a halfmile of her and can come to help with the babies, but she expects J to leave work everyday at 4 to do it. She also calls a lot during the day. Anyway, the other day something had broken and J needed to stay past 4, but he tried to leave - my husband's and J's boss told J that he needed to decide what is more important - him taking care of those babies or him working to provide for those babies? Sounds to me like J's job is starting to be in jeopardy and he makes pretty good money for the area of the country we live in. Replacing that income would be very hard.
Just wanted to see what y'all thought about this.

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"My DH knew that I would let him know if I couldn't handle something. He always took the children in the mornings on his days off downstairs so I could sleep in. I guess maybe in our home we all just kind of know what we do. I know that I cook dinner. I know that DH does dishes. I know that on his days off he does the kids baths, and on his days at work I do. If we waiver out of the routine we ask for help. My DH always knew that I would be the one to get up with the baby at night. That if I needed him to get up I would let him know."
Makes sense to me. :)
Robin
Yes I've heard the term Domestic Engineer. Rather insulting to real engineers.
Yes, engineers drive trains however there's more to being a train engineer than just driving the train. They maintain it too. Or did. Anymore, they pretty much just drive it.
What does a Mary Kay consultant engineer?
***So the fact that he has all three is totally irrelevant as a reason for him not receiving personal calls on the cell phone.***
I think it is. Listening to his radio, reading his computer, and if that Nextel does beep, and then I call him. He has 3 things he is trying to concentrate on. Add driving to that list and it is a mess.
Jennie
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She thinks so, why would what I think matter?
PumpkinAngel
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