Sahm=zero respect.

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Registered: 03-12-2005
Sahm=zero respect.
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Tue, 10-02-2007 - 8:51am
It's bad enough that sah isn't viewed as a real job by society but when the family takes it for granted....ugh!I am sure wohms feel this way sometimes too....taken for granted! What is wrong with this picture. Mom returns home at 9:30 p.m. and the house that was clean when she left is completely trashed! My dh is the worst culprit! He leaves his popsicle stick on the counter instead of throwing it in the garbage can. Of course if dh doesn't model respect, the kids won't either. I'm not cleaning this up. I'm calling a cleaning service or we will just get used to living like pigs. What do you think, does sah mean being a slave to everyone? Should sahms have to clean up every single mess made by the rest of the family, particularly the dh who brings in the check? The same can be applied to sahds too.

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Registered: 07-04-2007
Tue, 10-02-2007 - 8:57am
I do not think SAHM or SAHD should do all the housework just because they SAH.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 10-02-2007 - 9:05am

I don't think it has anything to do with SAH, my DH was a slob long before we married and had kids. In order to keep my sanity I've had to lower my standards.


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Registered: 08-14-2007
Tue, 10-02-2007 - 9:16am
This has nothing to do with your, or any mom's, working status. It has to do with the man's personality, the spine (or lack thereof) of the mom, and the relationship between the two of them.
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Registered: 07-23-2003
Tue, 10-02-2007 - 9:18am

I don't think your problem has anything to do with your working status.

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Registered: 12-06-2004
Tue, 10-02-2007 - 9:19am

I think it is time to go on strike.

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Registered: 03-12-2005
Tue, 10-02-2007 - 9:26am
You know, I talk to so many women that feel taken for granted. I have a friend who is a breast cancer survivor and she just did the three day walk. No one, not her dh, or her children showed up to support her. When she came home her house was a mess and no one was there to greet her. I don't know one single woman who would ever treat her dh or children that way. I don't get it! It seems like men (generally) speaking get away with putting themselves first more than women do. If a woman did such a thing she would be considered a b!---. That set me off. That on top of I threw my back out over the weekend and dh ripped on the kids about taking me for granted and then he turns around and models that example.
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Registered: 08-14-2007
Tue, 10-02-2007 - 9:34am
There is lots of gray area between martyr and bitch.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 10-02-2007 - 9:34am
I'm so sorry to hear this, but I agree, it's not related to work status.

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Registered: 11-17-2003
Tue, 10-02-2007 - 9:38am
It has nothing to do with working or not working. I have been on both ends and life is still the same. Same respect whether I work or not work. Men often need to be trained from the very beginning and gently guided to do these things. I do the cleaning in my house by choice. I enjoy cleaning. My daughter who is 5 helps me out quite a bit. I do expect my husband to rinse off his plates after he eats or scrap them into the trash and put them in the sink. He just does it automatically. He does however put his clothes on the bathroom floor no matter how many times I tell him not to. I guess it is my fault for not having a hamper in his office. Though the laundry room is only a few steps away-ha. Anyhoo, make a list of whos chores are whos and do something special for those that have helped. Trish :)
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Registered: 01-15-2006
Tue, 10-02-2007 - 9:41am
you know how many popsicle and lollipop sticks i find under couches,on tables,on counters that leave plenty of sticky tracks behind?

 

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