SAH/WOH--extramarital affairs

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SAH/WOH--extramarital affairs
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Tue, 02-15-2005 - 12:54pm

I was just at the gym this morning and overheard a conversation between two women on treadmills who were discussing/debating as to whether married sahms were any more or less likely to have affairs than married wohms.

I thought it would be interesting to hear your thoughts on this.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 02-18-2005 - 7:33pm

I dunno. I don't think they're selling all that Viagra to people dating 20 YOs.

I hear there's absolutely no better aphrodisiac for a lot of women than finally getting their kids moved out of the house and no longer being tired and busy and worrying about the possibility of getting pg.

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Registered: 08-19-2003
Fri, 02-18-2005 - 7:37pm

Hmmmm . . . if I'm understanding you, yes you're correct. But frankly, at this point in my day, I'm not sure!

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Registered: 08-19-2003
Fri, 02-18-2005 - 7:40pm

So do you believe that there's little difference between a grandmother's sexual appetite and someone who is younger?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 02-18-2005 - 7:53pm
Depends on the grandma. ;-)
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Registered: 09-25-2003
Fri, 02-18-2005 - 7:54pm

From what I'm learning in adult development and aging, there is no decline in desiring physical intimacy that isn't related to health problems.

Virgo
 
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Registered: 08-19-2003
Fri, 02-18-2005 - 8:01pm

Of course it does.

But in general, overall, do you think there's little difference?

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Registered: 09-25-2003
Fri, 02-18-2005 - 8:05pm

Not after the age of sexual maturity (post pubescence).


Virgo

Virgo
 
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Registered: 10-18-2003
Fri, 02-18-2005 - 8:09pm

I think there is little difference. But then, I'm from the school that strongly believes that sexual desire is as much as, if not more so, a mentally driven desire as it is a physical one ... that sexual desire is driven by having an emotional bond and connection.


Therefore ... 1) if you still have as deep an emotional connection with your spouse at 60 as you did at 30, your sexual desire wouldn't decline much and 2) if you didn't have someone with whom to have an emotional connection (i.e. your spouse died) you might not be frustrated at the lack of sex.

Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.  Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.

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Registered: 01-05-2005
Fri, 02-18-2005 - 8:14pm
The woman was neither a sahm nor a wohm. People without families have tons of time during which to conduct affairs, anywhere.
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Registered: 08-19-2003
Fri, 02-18-2005 - 8:16pm

>>From what I'm learning in adult development and aging, there is no decline in desiring physical intimacy that isn't related to health problems. Meaning, absent health-related instances, there are no appreciable differences in desire for physical intimacy post-pubscence.<<

But aren't health problems more prevalent in older individuals?

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