SAH/WOH--extramarital affairs

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SAH/WOH--extramarital affairs
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Tue, 02-15-2005 - 12:54pm

I was just at the gym this morning and overheard a conversation between two women on treadmills who were discussing/debating as to whether married sahms were any more or less likely to have affairs than married wohms.

I thought it would be interesting to hear your thoughts on this.

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Registered: 03-23-2003
Fri, 02-18-2005 - 9:27pm
Then what was your point?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 02-18-2005 - 9:34pm
"ike the desire for a sex life is a bad thing." Oh, good grief. How many times do I have to say it would be an awful thing to have to face doing without? Of course anyone who had enjoyed a healthy sex life would miss it. I just don't see how missing having sex with one's beloved husband, who is putatively chronically and seriously ill and very much alive and dependent on one, translates well into an itch to get one's freak on with a stand-in. One word for anyone that in need of an orgasm. Vibrator.
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Registered: 08-19-2003
Fri, 02-18-2005 - 9:41pm

If that's what you meant by your statement "Sex is not a need. Plenty of people go without for years and then I agree with you.

Unfortunately, you weren't around until now to tell me exactly what you meant by the phrase "perfectly fine" so I was going off my own interpretation of the phrase. Funny how things can be interpreted differently by different people.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 02-18-2005 - 9:42pm
Other than the initial bout where people think they've just got to try out everything they've been postulating for the previous however many years they've been thinking about it before doing any of it? No, why in the world would there be a difference just because you age? It's like asking, don't you think you're going to get tired of eating?
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Registered: 08-19-2003
Fri, 02-18-2005 - 9:57pm

I have two words: magic bullet. ;)

CYE!

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Registered: 03-23-2003
Fri, 02-18-2005 - 10:03pm
It's what I get for being cryptic. The sub-thread has been pretty interesting, though!
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Fri, 02-18-2005 - 10:04pm
But you weren't making a statement about the population at large. You were commenting on anyone who was "pefectly fine" without sex.
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Registered: 12-07-2004
Fri, 02-18-2005 - 10:39pm

I am well aware of what character means. Are you? Does one act define your character, your moral core? I think not.

Nick

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Registered: 12-07-2004
Fri, 02-18-2005 - 10:41pm

Who said nothing is immoral? Hope you didn't hurt yourself taking that leap.

Circumstances can and do cause people to do things they would not otherwise do. It is presumptuous to state that a person who has an extra marital affair is immoral or is a flawed human being. Unless you are God, you don't know that. And btw, morals are not universal.

Nick

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Registered: 12-07-2004
Fri, 02-18-2005 - 10:46pm

That circumstances can cause people to behave in ways that they normally wouldn't. There are often reasons for behaviour that we don't understand. People can get caught up in a moment (or a situation if you prefer) and for REASONS that are not visible to others, do something that they wouldn't under other circumstances. Reasons could include emotional vulnerability, starvation for human contact, temporary insanity etc etc etc.

Nick

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