SAH/WOH--extramarital affairs

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SAH/WOH--extramarital affairs
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Tue, 02-15-2005 - 12:54pm

I was just at the gym this morning and overheard a conversation between two women on treadmills who were discussing/debating as to whether married sahms were any more or less likely to have affairs than married wohms.

I thought it would be interesting to hear your thoughts on this.

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Registered: 12-07-2004
Fri, 02-18-2005 - 10:49pm

I think it would be a rare circumstance that the primary *need* would be for an orgasm. I think the need would be human contact and once human contact is established, being human, it can lead to sexual contact. I can't imagine missing sex with my dh who is lying in a bed very ill translating into getting my freak on with a stand in. I can imagine being emotionally drained and in need of being held though.

Nick

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Registered: 10-18-2003
Fri, 02-18-2005 - 11:17pm
An act as wrong and selfish and immoral as adultery? It definitely says a great deal about one's character.

Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.  Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 02-18-2005 - 11:23pm
Me too. That's why I would steer clear from nonrelated adult males as a source of human contact/being held.
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Registered: 12-07-2004
Fri, 02-18-2005 - 11:29pm

Clearly, you are still hurting over what your xh did.

I hope you get over him.

Nick

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Fri, 02-18-2005 - 11:30pm
Wait! What's that sound? Oh, no, it's the sound of LTB's head spinning around and popping clean off at the mention of Mother Teresa on this board. . . . ;-)
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Registered: 09-25-2003
Fri, 02-18-2005 - 11:45pm
Reasons or special circumstances don't make an act right or moral.

Virgo

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Fri, 02-18-2005 - 11:57pm

Better watch out - you're contradicting yourself. If morals aren't universal, then nothing is universally immoral. Which is what you just claimed you didn't say.


I never said that some people don't do things in one set of circumstances that they wouldn't do in another. I did say that regardless of the circumstances, if someone doesn't have it in them to behave

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Registered: 03-23-2003
Sat, 02-19-2005 - 12:00am
If you could stop hyperbolizing for a moment, this could be a rational discussion. A character flaw doesn't "define" your character. It's simply a flaw. Someone who behaves immorally does not have a flawless character.
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Registered: 03-23-2003
Sat, 02-19-2005 - 12:02am

Clearly, you are overly defensive because you had an affair with a married man.


I hope you get over it.

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Sat, 02-19-2005 - 12:05am

And all of those things don't mean squat if someone doesn't have the weakness of character to succumb to them.


You're ignoring root cause. And you're also still claiming that the situation is the reason.

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