SAH/WOH--extramarital affairs

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SAH/WOH--extramarital affairs
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Tue, 02-15-2005 - 12:54pm

I was just at the gym this morning and overheard a conversation between two women on treadmills who were discussing/debating as to whether married sahms were any more or less likely to have affairs than married wohms.

I thought it would be interesting to hear your thoughts on this.

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Registered: 12-07-2004
Sat, 02-19-2005 - 12:06am

No, nothing, perse, makes an act right or moral. Neither does an act make a person wrong or immoral.

Nick

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Sat, 02-19-2005 - 12:10am

I am hyperbolizing by saying that one act doesn't make one immoral, but you aren't by saying that one act does? Gotcha.

Nick

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Sat, 02-19-2005 - 12:12am

<<>>

Who does have a flawless character? If I eat nothing but vegetables one day does that make me a vegetarian? No. If I commit one immoral act does it make me immoral? No. It makes me human.

Nick

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Registered: 12-07-2004
Sat, 02-19-2005 - 12:19am

I am defensive? Thanks for that insight. I never felt any guilt or remorse, never thought he or I were immoral, and therefore had nothing to get over. I am still friends with him today. It did indeed teach me though that one cannot judge another unless one has walked a mile in the other's shoes - there is no black and white - no absolutes.

BTW, would there ever be a situation that would cause me to lose my mind and beat my child. I hope to God not, but I know of women who have. Never say never.

Nick

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Sat, 02-19-2005 - 12:28am

Note to self: irony is lost on ikorky.


And you think women that do beat their children with electrical cords aren't behaving immorally? That there is nothing wrong with them?

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Sat, 02-19-2005 - 12:29am
No, you are hyperbolizing by even suggesting that one immoral act defines a person's moral core. Something which no one else here (aside from you) has suggested.
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Sat, 02-19-2005 - 12:32am

If you lie, you are a liar. If you steal, you are a thief. While it may make us feel better to believe that we are good moral people despite our actions, sadly that just isn't true.


Everyone is flawed. Everyone is flawed in different ways. Someone who cheats is flawed in a way that makes them able to cheat.

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Registered: 12-07-2004
Sat, 02-19-2005 - 12:32am

I think TM, that BEHAVING in a certain manner, does not equal BEING. It's kind of like separating the child from the behaviour ya know? The child isn't bad, but he did a bad thing.

BTW, what makes you think the irony was lost on me? Ever think your stunning wit just isn't that stunning or note worthy? Make that note to yourself.

Nick

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Sat, 02-19-2005 - 12:35am

ROFLMAO. My original statement that has been being debated, was that an individual who engages in an extra marital affair is not necessarily immoral or flawed as a human being. I was debating this issue with savcal who believes that anyone who commits adultry for any reason is immoral, selfish and flawed.

Nick

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Registered: 12-07-2004
Sat, 02-19-2005 - 12:38am

I have not faltered from my original claim. You have decided that my original claim was not being debated. Oh well.

Nick

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