SAH/WOH--extramarital affairs

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SAH/WOH--extramarital affairs
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Tue, 02-15-2005 - 12:54pm

I was just at the gym this morning and overheard a conversation between two women on treadmills who were discussing/debating as to whether married sahms were any more or less likely to have affairs than married wohms.

I thought it would be interesting to hear your thoughts on this.

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Registered: 12-12-2002
Sat, 02-19-2005 - 11:00am
Not only that, but sexual release can be a HUGE stress release as well.

Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14

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Sat, 02-19-2005 - 11:12am
But I don't think cocoa has asserted, nor have I, that *everyone* is perfectly fine w/o sex, or that *everyone* can go without it and not be frustrated ... just that it *is* possible.

Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.  Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.

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Registered: 12-07-2004
Sat, 02-19-2005 - 11:35am

I brought children into the equation only to make a point. That behaviour does not define the person - child or adult.

Nick

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Sat, 02-19-2005 - 11:44am

And I disagree that one action defines a person's character. To use TM's example that if you lie you are a liar - no, if you lie once - you lied once. It does not mean you are a flawed human being - well no more flawed than any other human being. If you steal once, you are not a thief - you stole once - and maybe you did it b/c you were hungry, cold, etc. You are not flawed as a result. If you have an affair once - you are not an adulterer - you had an affair.

I really don't think we are that far apart in our stance here.

Nick

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Sat, 02-19-2005 - 11:45am

Adultry MAY be selfish, and it may be immoral - depending on your values and the circumstances.

Nick

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Sat, 02-19-2005 - 11:47am

I have not once said that you claim an adulterer is nothing but flawed. What I am disagreeing with is that he/she IS flawed BECAUSE they had an affair.

Nick

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Sat, 02-19-2005 - 12:16pm
What if your kids were older and in school. Would you then have acted on your impulses?
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Sat, 02-19-2005 - 12:35pm

I don't think they truly knew better. If they did, they wouldn't have felt the need to test the boundries. Obviously, they are still trying to internalize the rules.


And you didn't answer my question.

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Registered: 03-23-2003
Sat, 02-19-2005 - 12:36pm
And you would be wrong.
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Sat, 02-19-2005 - 12:38pm
You are trying to say that we claim the flaw defines the character. We're not saying that.

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