SAH/WOH--extramarital affairs

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SAH/WOH--extramarital affairs
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Tue, 02-15-2005 - 12:54pm

I was just at the gym this morning and overheard a conversation between two women on treadmills who were discussing/debating as to whether married sahms were any more or less likely to have affairs than married wohms.

I thought it would be interesting to hear your thoughts on this.

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Registered: 12-07-2004
Sat, 02-19-2005 - 1:56pm

Because of the circumstances. And yes, the intent. It is wrong to kill, but am I wrong to kill an intruder who is intent on killing my family?

Edited to ask: for how long surrounding the killing would I be labelled a killer? If you kill, you are a killer right?

As I said, there are no absolutes, even when it comes to moral behavior.

Nick




Edited 2/19/2005 2:02 pm ET ET by ikorky9899
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Sat, 02-19-2005 - 2:05pm
How is it erroneous when they committed the act??????

Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.  Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.

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Registered: 10-18-2003
Sat, 02-19-2005 - 2:06pm
SHow me a case of adultery by self-defense and I'll lay down my convictions and say you are right.

Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.  Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.

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Registered: 08-19-2003
Sat, 02-19-2005 - 2:09pm

So when does your label of "speeder" go away? Or are you always a "speeder" because you did it once? If someone cheats - should they always be labeled a "cheater?"

I understand that you're saying that just b/c one cheats that that's not ALL they are - but I'm wondering how long IYO that label should stick.

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Sat, 02-19-2005 - 2:11pm
If there are no absolutes, then nothing is immoral. But you also claimed you didn't say that. At least pick an idea and stick with it.
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Sat, 02-19-2005 - 2:12pm
We carry our actions with us forever. It's the price we pay. We can move on, but we can't erase the past.
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Registered: 12-07-2004
Sat, 02-19-2005 - 2:13pm

Huh? Please show me where I have changed my stance and I'll explain to you how you are in fact wrong.

Nick

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Sat, 02-19-2005 - 2:13pm

The morality of one action doesn't change the morality of a different action. That divorcing his wife would be "more selfish" doesn't make cheating any less selfish than it is. And since those aren't the only two options, it's not a matter of choosing the lesser of two evils.

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Registered: 12-07-2004
Sat, 02-19-2005 - 2:15pm

You already have, implied at least, that I am right. Circumstances do matter. Or are you saying an immoral act becomes moral only if it is committed in self defense?

Nick

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Sat, 02-19-2005 - 2:16pm
And that relates to this debate exactly how?

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