SAH/WOH--extramarital affairs
Find a Conversation
SAH/WOH--extramarital affairs
| Tue, 02-15-2005 - 12:54pm |
I was just at the gym this morning and overheard a conversation between two women on treadmills who were discussing/debating as to whether married sahms were any more or less likely to have affairs than married wohms.
I thought it would be interesting to hear your thoughts on this.

Pages
You'll have to ask someone who is labeling people.
To relate your question to what I've actually said in this debate, someone who lies does so because there is something in their character which allows them to lie. If they choose at some point to not lie anymore, it doesn't change the fact that there is something in their character which allows them to lie.
You're the one doing the labeling. Ask yourself the question.
I've already pointed out two posts where you've contradicted yourself.
You haven't pointed out one where I've contradicted myself.
And herein lies our difference - you have claimed that if you tell a lie, you are a liar, if you cheat on your spouse you are a cheater, if you steal you are a thief, if you speed you are a speeder. I have said not necessarily. I used the separating a child's behaviour from the child as an example, and TM chose to twist it and detract from the point. I think that we must separate the action from the person. You say that labels don't define a person, I say they do. They may not describe the whole person, but at least a facet of the person. There are immoral acts. Killing is wrong, but there are circumstances that could occur that would cause a person to kill. Doesn't make the person a killer. Cheating is wrong - the person who cheats isn't necessarily immoral. Lying is wrong - the person who lies isn't necessarily a liar or immoral.
Nick
You're logic is so completely off here ... I can't even begin to understand. If I lie, how am I not a liar? If I cheat how am I not a cheater? If I speed, how am I not a speeder?
So, lets take your stance .. separate the action from the person.
Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color. Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.
So you wouldn't refer to such a person as a "liar"? You'd just say this is a "character flaw" of theirs?
BTW - I think we all have something in our character that allows us to lie. That's a character flaw in everyone of us.
<< I think we all have something in our character that allows us to lie. That's a character flaw in everyone of us.>>
I don't disagree.
However, there are (hopefully) few of us that have something in our character that would allow us to cheat.
Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color. Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.
Pages