SAH/WOH--extramarital affairs
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SAH/WOH--extramarital affairs
| Tue, 02-15-2005 - 12:54pm |
I was just at the gym this morning and overheard a conversation between two women on treadmills who were discussing/debating as to whether married sahms were any more or less likely to have affairs than married wohms.
I thought it would be interesting to hear your thoughts on this.

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Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color. Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.
Yeah, but you are in the middle of a passionate (somewhat new) love affair. Maybe it is your resolve to never think of sex as a chore, and maybe that will be quite helpful in your upcoming marriage. But you shouldn't dismiss it out of hand completely. There is nothing wrong with having chores, is there? It's how you take care of things, maintain and nurture. Chores can be very important.
My dh often thinks that sitting and listening to me blather on for thirty minutes about the wild and crazy day I had with the children is a chore. That's okay. At least I get what I want and need. I don't need him to be passionate about it every time. (He could look away from the computer chess game long enough to make eye contact though...)
I certainly wouldn't think of sex as a chore if I were at your stage either.
Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color. Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.
Yes and no.
During those times both partners should give in some. If one partner should be willing to accept having sex even though it feels like a chore then the other partner should be willing to accept the fact that they will not be having sex everytime they want it.
"Interestingly enough, there's a difference between my sex drive when dh is home and when he's not."
I think that is pretty normal. Whenever we have had long seperations after about the first month my sex drive went into "hibernation" state.
That is such an excellent point. I hadn't considered this to be part and parcel of her idealistic view of marital sex. Yes, absolutely. In the first 5 years of our marriage, we were like a pair of rabbits. We've calmed down alot since then. lol
Nick
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