SAH/WOH--extramarital affairs

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SAH/WOH--extramarital affairs
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Tue, 02-15-2005 - 12:54pm

I was just at the gym this morning and overheard a conversation between two women on treadmills who were discussing/debating as to whether married sahms were any more or less likely to have affairs than married wohms.

I thought it would be interesting to hear your thoughts on this.

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Registered: 03-29-2003
Tue, 03-01-2005 - 6:50pm
OT, but my evil MIL did a version of what you suggest: DH and I brought DS2 home from the hospital, and she suggested that DH go up and take a nap! LOLOL.
Congratulations! I'm so happy to hear it. I just heard the good news and popped back over, just in case you were still checking in.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 03-01-2005 - 6:54pm
No actually it is because it is the law (in the U.S.). If they are looking at family income then they cannot deny or set credits limits based on how that income is divided. The SAHS must be treated in the same way that the WOHS would be. Meaning that if the family income/credit rating would qualify the WOHS for that credit then it would also qualify the SAHS for that credit. Also they must give the SAHS the same credit limit that they would have given the WOHS. Works the same in families with a higher and lower wage earners. The lower wager earner must be treated the same as the higher wage earner.
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Tue, 03-01-2005 - 7:13pm

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Here: http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-pssahwoh&msg=15105.35, when you wrote this:

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You change your tune an awful lot on this board, I have noticed. But it will be interesting to see you try to reconcile these two points of view. What if someone is writing a novel just because she likes it? Is that not OK? And, if not, then how do you justify reading novels or consuming other works of art yourself? If people didn't pursue strange and varied professions just for the love of them, how on earth would our society function?

I thought of asking these questions before, but it seemed pretty fruitless. If you truly, truly doubt the value of any pursuits other than those that would bring financial reward or elevated social status, if you're not just being obtuse for the sake of argument or to justify your own life choices, then a real exchange of ideas is darned near impossible.

The pursuit of love and happiness are not valid motivations for ANY course of action, as far as I can tell from your posts. A grim determination to carry out the life plan that one developed at age 18, now that's valuable (although why I don't understand, since you often point out how immature you were at 18 -- another interesting contradiction). I just honestly find it difficult to communicate effectively with someone of your values.

Congratulations! I'm so happy to hear it. I just heard the good news and popped back over, just in case you were still checking in.
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Tue, 03-01-2005 - 10:49pm
"The legislative intent behind such laws concerning social security, say, or disability compensation is to foment family bonds and sticking by each other in difficult times, among other incentives." What? No, it isn't. (And I don't think foment means what you think it means.)
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Tue, 03-01-2005 - 11:05pm

The ability to do something and actually doing it are two different things. So what if you "could" go to work tomorrow? Today, you are dependent on your dh earning money. Which was the point.


I'm curious though why your dh would continue to pay you if you returned to WOH. What would he be paying you for, since apparently you can't do those things he's paying you for unless you SAH?

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Registered: 03-23-2003
Tue, 03-01-2005 - 11:06pm
How does your SAH cure you of your nasty shopping habit?
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Tue, 03-01-2005 - 11:07pm
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Tue, 03-01-2005 - 11:08pm

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So, like I said, you were just ignoring the context. Because whether or not something counts as a "service" wasn't even an issue. The issue was whether or not a SAHP is financially dependent on the WOHP. How many "services" the SAHP does or does not provide is completely irrelevant.




Edited 3/1/2005 11:10 pm ET ET by taylormomma
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Tue, 03-01-2005 - 11:11pm
Not being Catholic, I have no clue what you're talking about in regards to Mother Teresa. But not being Catholic, whatever you're trying to say doesn't apply to my grandmothers.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 03-01-2005 - 11:19pm
Factually incorrect. You delivered a baby, your DH did not, but he "had a baby" to exactly the same extent that you did, whether or not he did one thing past the sperm donation. He could have been absent, unaware, or even dead at the time you popped the little buggers out, and that simple medical fact would have remained the same. Unless you've accomplished parthenogenesis? In which case, I stand corrected. (But I kinda doubt it.)

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