SAH/WOH--extramarital affairs

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SAH/WOH--extramarital affairs
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Tue, 02-15-2005 - 12:54pm

I was just at the gym this morning and overheard a conversation between two women on treadmills who were discussing/debating as to whether married sahms were any more or less likely to have affairs than married wohms.

I thought it would be interesting to hear your thoughts on this.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 03-01-2005 - 11:27pm

Kinda like you're denigrating your DH having had anything to do with "your" "accomplishment" in having kids?

Even if so, why does it affect you? I wonder, do I get to be, what was the phrase, deeply resentful? highly offended? every time you denigrate your spouse's contributions to your family? Hmm. Maybe this could be fun.

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Tue, 03-01-2005 - 11:48pm
It doesn't! I'm just saying that there is *a* difference technically (and that's what PnJ is referring to).

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Tue, 03-01-2005 - 11:48pm
Were you ever to win an Academy Award, they'd never have to start playing the music to get you to stop thanking everyone who helped you along the way, now, would they? Oh, no, wait, thanking people in acceptance speeches probably falls under the "socially savvy yet meaningless sucking-up clause" and would therefore be undertaken with a broad orthodontured and lipsticked smile worthy of its own Academy Award.
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Wed, 03-02-2005 - 6:11am

We have separate funds too..you and I have

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Wed, 03-02-2005 - 6:23am

No, I was debating one specific subthread of the thread. Happens all the time, we start debating one subject and it leads to a discussion on another subject. This post started out as SAH/WOH Extramarial Affairs but many other things are being discussed. Which means that that starting subject has lead to many other discussions (including whether a SAHP is financially dependent on a WOHP). Whether or not a SAHP is dependent fincially on a WOHP was not an issue until someone brought it into the discussion.

"But aside from childcare, none of those are things which one must hire anyone to do."

Also is has absolutely nothing to do with whether someone is dependent on someones income or not. Why is it ok for you to veer off from a subject but when I do I am ignoring the content?

I was debating that specific post just like you were debating the specific post that you replied to.

Edited 3/2/2005 6:28 am ET ET by texigan




Edited 3/2/2005 6:30 am ET ET by texigan
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Wed, 03-02-2005 - 6:34am
Since without said sperm there would be no baby the fathers do a big part in having a baby.
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Registered: 01-29-2004
Wed, 03-02-2005 - 6:40am

I looked that up. My usage is now deemed obsolete! Thanks.

I'm not really versed in disability compensation, but I'm up on my SS reading and there are many things including the death benefit, the survivor's benefit, a possible increase in payments upon the death of a spouse, which certainly indicate an incentive encouraging family.

I can't imagine why the legislature would allow disability payments to the family after one passes away unless there were also an intention to encourage family.

What are your thoughts on QM's perspectives?

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Registered: 01-29-2004
Wed, 03-02-2005 - 6:53am

PNJ already discussed that very distinction before you posted in #740, I think.

Admit it, you just wanted to use the word parthenogenesis. lol (What - Parthenon, babies popping out of male gods' bodies? I don't have my dictionary at hand.)

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Registered: 01-29-2004
Wed, 03-02-2005 - 7:12am

That would bother me too. I'd still be her friend and wouldn't "resent" it. But annoying nonetheless.

I think it's the people who get up everyday to get to work on-time that have it not necessarily harder, but a more structured and more demanding time of it than sahps. They are entitled to say they alone earned the money.

I also consider DH's hard-earned money his money. He earned it and I'm glad he's generous with it and doesn't put any conditions on my spending it. Whenever possible, I'll try to get his input (like for bigger purchases for the house or family) because deep inside, I believe it's his money. I know I couldn't have earned his larger income as a lawyer. My friends keep telling me NOT to think that way. But so far it's not an issue.

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Wed, 03-02-2005 - 7:22am
You recently stopped working to sah. Do you think your early mornings are as fast-paced and even stressful as when you worked? Now that my children are getting older and more independent, I just think sah is much easier than working. It's the lack of structure, deadlines and reporting to higher-ups that makes me think sah is much easier.

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