SAH/WOH: It's always a choice

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SAH/WOH: It's always a choice
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Tue, 07-14-2009 - 3:11pm

Hi All,


I'm new to this board and totally fascinated by the WOH/SAH debate.

Penn Girl

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 07-15-2009 - 2:56pm

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I don't know...the guilt comments, the hiding behind a position comment, the comments about how you thought you "had" to go back to work...and so forth.


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I'm clearly not getting that from your posts.....what I'm getting is how you would rather sah but you need to work that you were working to keep the resume gap closed and etc....

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 07-15-2009 - 2:59pm

My plan was never to spend 24/7/365 for 18 years with my children, so I haven't had any guilt related to working and them being cared for by others.


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 04-22-2005
Wed, 07-15-2009 - 3:08pm

I don't think that acknowledging that one needs to work for financial reasons means that the person feels like a victim. I think it's a reasonable statement of fact in response to people that imply that every option is a viable one.

Going on welfare when I could work is no more of an option than robbing a bank when I could work.














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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 07-15-2009 - 4:13pm
The thing is, this is a sah/wohm debate board. You won't find many wohms who feel "stuck, resentful, unhappy" in their "work-life balance" here. They don't *want* to change their situation. So it's a little patronizing to lecture them on how to empower themselves to change their situation (I'm sure you don't mean to do that, but I think that's why you're getting the reaction you're getting).
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Registered: 05-16-2009
Wed, 07-15-2009 - 10:24pm

The thing is, this is a sah/wohm debate board. You won't find many wohms who feel "stuck, resentful, unhappy" in their "work-life balance" here. They don't *want* to change their situation. So it's a little patronizing to lecture them on how to empower themselves to change their situation (I'm sure you don't mean to do that, but I think that's why you're getting the reaction you're getting).


I completely agree with this.

Amber- mommy to Hunter Scott, 6 years

 

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Registered: 05-16-2009
Wed, 07-15-2009 - 10:31pm

And why do WOHM always have to feel guilty or stuck?!?

Amber- mommy to Hunter Scott, 6 years

 

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Registered: 05-05-2007
Thu, 07-16-2009 - 2:26am
Yep, I'm right there with you. Being the only adult in the house and the only one who earns a living, there is not much of a choice unless I wanted to go on welfare and honestly that would be no choice for me.
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Registered: 05-10-2009
Thu, 07-16-2009 - 8:58am
*nodding* Thank you for verbalizing what I couldn't.
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Registered: 02-06-2009
Thu, 07-16-2009 - 9:22am

<<The thing is, this is a sah/wohm debate board. You won't find many wohms who feel "stuck, resentful, unhappy" in their "work-life balance" here. They don't *want* to change their situation.>>


Very, very true.

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Registered: 03-23-2009
Thu, 07-16-2009 - 9:33am

Do you htink eveyr mom in the world secretly wants to SAH?

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