SAH/WOH for Teens?

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Registered: 12-29-2004
SAH/WOH for Teens?
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Fri, 01-11-2008 - 10:37am

It looks like SAH/WOH isn't just for moms any more.

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Registered: 09-04-1997
Fri, 01-11-2008 - 11:45am
But it doesn't make sense to choose a field where it's "all or nothing" if that's not what you want out of life. I don't know how many women I know who are SAHMs because they chose a field where they couldn't balance their professional life with their home life. They went to school for years and years to become "X", and worked at it for four or five years before they had kids and found out that doing what they thought they wanted to do was incompatible with being the kind of wife and mother they want to be. They stay home a few years and then their second career if virtually always more "family friendly." So if they know ahead of time they are looking for a family friendly career, more power to them.
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Registered: 12-07-2003
Fri, 01-11-2008 - 11:49am
Aren't you a speech pathologist in the public schools? Does your DH refer to your career choice as a "female ghetto career choice?"

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 01-11-2008 - 11:50am
A person might have a more impressive resume if she works in a non family friendly position or industry for a few years than if she goes for the "family friendly" job right off the bat. What if she never marries, or marries but doesn't have kids, or marries with or without kids and has a SAHS?

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Fri, 01-11-2008 - 11:59am

It does match her interests and strengths, as far as she knows them.

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Registered: 09-04-1997
Fri, 01-11-2008 - 12:00pm
I think the issue is "what you really wanted to do." What if what one "really wants to do" is find a career that is enjoyable, flexible, and family friendly? Not everyone is going for the really impressive career resume as a life goal. Not everyone is willing to perhaps go into debt for graduate expenses if it means delaying a family to pay off graduate debt. And if one really wants a family, one will get one. I wanted children so badly that I fostered for several years after I turned thirty, before I was even married.
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Registered: 12-29-2004
Fri, 01-11-2008 - 12:00pm
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iVillage Member
Registered: 09-04-1997
Fri, 01-11-2008 - 12:01pm
Will she be getting a B.A. or a B.S. in her dental hygiene program? Won't they have general education requirements she has to fulfill?
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-29-2004
Fri, 01-11-2008 - 12:03pm
As someone else pointed out, dentists can have flexibility, too, so there's not much of an argument there for choosing dental hygiene over dentistry.
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-04-1997
Fri, 01-11-2008 - 12:03pm
No we can't. Most of my feminist friends realized that about the time their five year olds daughters chose dance class over soccer, cheerleading over basketball, or wondered why they didn't have pink plastic toys like their friends. You were probably lucky to get this far!
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Registered: 12-29-2004
Fri, 01-11-2008 - 12:05pm

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