SAH/WOH - Why?

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Registered: 11-18-2005
SAH/WOH - Why?
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Mon, 02-20-2006 - 7:41am

I am sure this has been done before but I was wondering this in light of recent posts lately.

Why did you decide to sah/woh?

Was it a choice or something expected of you?

Was your plan to sah/woh though out or impulsive? Long-term or short-term?

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Wed, 03-08-2006 - 8:33pm
So, you don't care. Mind if I say I find that sad? Where I live, parents have a more or less shared sense of community values, based on the idea that none of us lives in a bubble.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 03-08-2006 - 8:40pm
Hard to imagine, isn't it.
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Registered: 03-28-2003
Wed, 03-08-2006 - 8:48pm
I agree. Today at preschool pickup we were jokingly discussing how mad we would be if one of the other parents gave their four year old an iPod and having your own preschooler iPod became all the rage. A Guatemalan nanny had such a look of horror on her face, it was comical.
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Registered: 01-18-2006
Wed, 03-08-2006 - 8:57pm
We were talking about supply and demand. That supply and demand may not exist depending on ones circumstances.

 

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Registered: 01-18-2006
Wed, 03-08-2006 - 8:59pm
Where we live and depending on their activities that may very well happen. You have to remember I will be working as well. I already put a lot of miles on my truck. Again it is still very fuel efficient for them to drive their own cars and not mine.

 

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Registered: 01-18-2006
Wed, 03-08-2006 - 9:03pm
If you think I would care that my kids would call me a meanie or think I was cheap because I didn't buy them a tv or a car...BIG DEAL! If that would bother you then I find that sad.

 

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Wed, 03-08-2006 - 9:06pm
It's all inevitable, I suppose, but the longer we can delay this stuff the better imo.
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Registered: 12-29-2004
Wed, 03-08-2006 - 9:10pm
It's not at all a question of whether your kid thinks you're mean. It's simply that we stand a better chance of having a positive influence on our kids if we're on the same page with other parents around. If each family gives up and cares only about their own kids, then peer pressure is more likely to work in the wrong direction.
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Registered: 01-18-2006
Wed, 03-08-2006 - 9:23pm
To be honest I don't know where you live, but here it is different. The area is so spread out that many kids are bused into schools from one side of town to the other. My son goes to private school. His friends live all over everywhere. You are right that if parents are all on the same page then it makes things easier. However when has that ever really been the case? I don't think that I have ever heard of parents all agreeing how to take care of their kids, and what to buy and what not to buy. I see kids everyday competing for clothing, boyfriends, girlfriends, shoes, make up, accessories, etc. It is just how our kids are today. We are not teaching our children those values. I don't think buying them a car when they are 16 is teaching them that they are better than anyone. To be honest I hope that my children know someday that life isnt about a label or where they live or what they drive. I don't drive my truck because it is some status symbol. I drive my truck because in all the years I have been driving I have found that Toyota and Honda to be the best vehicles that I have driven. Are you honestly suggesting that parents should be together on whether as a community they should buy their kids cars or not?

 

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 03-08-2006 - 9:27pm
Um, you would have to buy two new cars in four years to make up for that.

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