SAH/WOH - Why?

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Registered: 11-18-2005
SAH/WOH - Why?
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Mon, 02-20-2006 - 7:41am

I am sure this has been done before but I was wondering this in light of recent posts lately.

Why did you decide to sah/woh?

Was it a choice or something expected of you?

Was your plan to sah/woh though out or impulsive? Long-term or short-term?

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Registered: 01-18-2006
Thu, 03-09-2006 - 12:41pm
So buying our children a car is not teaching them values?

 

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 03-09-2006 - 12:41pm

No, in this case, the invitation said it was for a sleepover, beginning at 4 that day and ending at 10 the next day.

The girl who invited the boys for a sleepover did it without her parents' knowledge (the invitation said it was a bowling party, but the girl also invited a few kids to spend the night, kind of like what you're talking about). As soon as the parents heard about it, they quickly nixed the idea of boys. So that was just a mixup, but it may have contributed to the confusion of the boy's mom in this case thinking that the girls' parents would be okay with this.

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Registered: 01-18-2006
Thu, 03-09-2006 - 12:43pm
My kids driving their own cars has no more effect on my community than you driving your car.

 

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Thu, 03-09-2006 - 12:46pm

My kids are going to a co-ed sleepover late next month.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 03-09-2006 - 12:49pm

Sure it does. Your family of four will be driving 4 cars. My family of four will be driving 2 cars. And that's even without considering the SUV you drive, your inability to carpool or use public transportation, and the considerably greater distances you drive.

Those things are your choice, but I don't think you should kid yourself that you don't have any more effect on your community than the family who drives fewer cars/cars that get better gas mileage, carpools, uses public transportation, or simply drives fewer miles than you do.

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Thu, 03-09-2006 - 12:52pm

Why is it significant?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Thu, 03-09-2006 - 12:53pm
So your school has 2000 and mine has 1200. Nobody gets to know everybody. But how can you avoid getting to know at least a few other families through the years? How can you avoid being on in what other families consider appropriate in terms of all the different issues that come up in raising teens? Even if you feel capable and prefer to make all your decisions strictly on your own terms, is it wrong for teens to compare themselves to their peers and model themselves after them?
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Thu, 03-09-2006 - 12:58pm
Of course it does, how can it not?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 03-09-2006 - 1:07pm

I thought you said it was about convenience and your ability to buy cars for them?

There are other parents who feel this decision is about something more. Certainly, it is not their business to tell you what to do, but I think you are mistaken in thinking that buying cars for your kids has no effect on anybody else.

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