SAH/WOH - Why?
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SAH/WOH - Why?
| Mon, 02-20-2006 - 7:41am |
I am sure this has been done before but I was wondering this in light of recent posts lately.
Why did you decide to sah/woh?
Was it a choice or something expected of you?
Was your plan to sah/woh though out or impulsive? Long-term or short-term?

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I don't think it's an equivalent situation. I don't know anyone who dismisses the issue of divorce as lacking the potential to harm a child. You, on the other hand, insist that spanking has never hurt your child, nor ever had the potential to hurt your child. In the case of divorce, parents are choosing the less of two evils--openly acknowledging that divorce is NOT a good choice, but may simply be the least damaging of two bad ones. The only possible way spanking compares is if you're telling us now that spanking IS evil, but sometimes, it's a better evil than other choices.
And if so, thank you for confirming all we've been saying about spanking all along.
Karen
"Terry manages to hand the bag off to Ruth Marie, who takes off in the most mincing sprint you have ever seen in your life. She does her best, but she runs like she's got a pink parasol in one hand and an inhaler in the other."
Miss Alli @ TelevisionWithoutPity, Survivor: Exile Island
Karen
"Veronica: "I hate fake deer too. Every time I see their stupid fake-deer faces I want to grab a shotgun and go all Cheney on 'em." Sure, but since fake deer don't talk, they won't
I had to answer the poll to see the results - didn't you?
And where do you think the court got the ideas for guidelines on spanking if not from some kind of consulted "expert" opinion? Made it up themselves?
You can make many of the same arguments against punative parenting in general. That the main lesson being taught is not to get caught, etc. Spanking is not, IMO, specifically more harmful than many other punative/harsh parenting methods. It is equally impossible to know the effects of derrogatory language or cursing on any given child as it is spanking.
I'm not advocating spanking as a parenting tool at all - any more than I think it is acceptible to advocate yelling, cursing, or degrading a child. I agree that it is a parenting failure, not a tool. But I disagree that it constitutes abuse or is worthy of the visceral reactions spanking debates generate.
It's definitely harder at that age, but there were still a lot of cases where natural consequences were very effective.
I'm unaware of having characterized all spanking as inherently abusive and am, therefore, quite confused what it is, exactly, you disagreed with in my post.
As for the rest, it's a debate board, and I hardly think my (now) 3 posts on the topic in a thread of nearly 400 posts, counts as a "visceral reaction." Spanking is both useless and pointless; i see no reason to pander to spanking apologists by pretending otherwise.
Karen
"Terry manages to hand the bag off to Ruth Marie, who takes off in the most mincing sprint you have ever seen in your life. She does her best, but she runs like she's got a pink parasol in one hand and an inhaler in the other."
Miss Alli @ TelevisionWithoutPity, Survivor: Exile Island
Karen
"Veronica: "I hate fake deer too. Every time I see their stupid fake-deer faces I want to grab a shotgun and go all Cheney on 'em." Sure, but since fake deer don't talk, they won't
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