SAH/WOH - Why?

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Registered: 11-18-2005
SAH/WOH - Why?
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Mon, 02-20-2006 - 7:41am

I am sure this has been done before but I was wondering this in light of recent posts lately.

Why did you decide to sah/woh?

Was it a choice or something expected of you?

Was your plan to sah/woh though out or impulsive? Long-term or short-term?

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Registered: 01-18-2006
Sun, 02-26-2006 - 8:31am
Actually it isn't dangerous. If you look at the back of the infant carseat there is a lock. MOST infant carseats lock onto that back of the seat in the cart. I wouldn't sit a carseat up there if it didn't lock. However when I went grocery shopping with my babies they were in my Snugli.

 

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Registered: 01-18-2006
Sun, 02-26-2006 - 8:33am
Well while I would agree with you. If your child is in public school they have the right under the law to do it.

 

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Registered: 08-22-2005
Sun, 02-26-2006 - 8:56am

I don't think it's an equivalent situation. I don't know anyone who dismisses the issue of divorce as lacking the potential to harm a child. You, on the other hand, insist that spanking has never hurt your child, nor ever had the potential to hurt your child. In the case of divorce, parents are choosing the less of two evils--openly acknowledging that divorce is NOT a good choice, but may simply be the least damaging of two bad ones. The only possible way spanking compares is if you're telling us now that spanking IS evil, but sometimes, it's a better evil than other choices.

And if so, thank you for confirming all we've been saying about spanking all along.

Karen


"Terry manages to hand the bag off to Ruth Marie, who takes off in the most mincing sprint you have ever seen in your life. She does her best, but she runs like she's got a pink parasol in one hand and an inhaler in the other."


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Karen

"Veronica: "I hate fake deer too. Every time I see their stupid fake-deer faces I want to grab a shotgun and go all Cheney on 'em." Sure, but since fake deer don't talk, they won't

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Sun, 02-26-2006 - 8:58am

I had to answer the poll to see the results - didn't you?

And where do you think the court got the ideas for guidelines on spanking if not from some kind of consulted "expert" opinion? Made it up themselves?

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Sun, 02-26-2006 - 9:02am

You can make many of the same arguments against punative parenting in general. That the main lesson being taught is not to get caught, etc. Spanking is not, IMO, specifically more harmful than many other punative/harsh parenting methods. It is equally impossible to know the effects of derrogatory language or cursing on any given child as it is spanking.

I'm not advocating spanking as a parenting tool at all - any more than I think it is acceptible to advocate yelling, cursing, or degrading a child. I agree that it is a parenting failure, not a tool. But I disagree that it constitutes abuse or is worthy of the visceral reactions spanking debates generate.

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Registered: 01-18-2006
Sun, 02-26-2006 - 9:03am
No I am not saying spanking is evil. Nor am I saying divorce is evil. The point I was making is that we will NEVER know what can or will cause or children damage. We can only parent the best way we can and do what we think is best for them. I think it is naive to think that all discipline methods work for all children. You may discipline much harsher than I do. How would I know that? Every situation is different for every child. What might work for your children may never work for mine.

 

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Sun, 02-26-2006 - 9:04am
I could never do that because I was too short to see over the top! I did, however put one infant seat in the main part of the basket (later with another child in the seat), and carry one baby in a sling, and pull another cart for groceries.
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Registered: 03-31-2003
Sun, 02-26-2006 - 9:07am
Natural consequence definitely hit home the older a child gets. That 2-4 age can be a tough one, though. There were times when mine were that age that the "natural consequence" was, in effect, what they wanted in the first place (leaving a store because behavior was unacceptible).
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Registered: 08-27-2005
Sun, 02-26-2006 - 9:18am

It's definitely harder at that age, but there were still a lot of cases where natural consequences were very effective.

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Registered: 08-22-2005
Sun, 02-26-2006 - 9:24am

I'm unaware of having characterized all spanking as inherently abusive and am, therefore, quite confused what it is, exactly, you disagreed with in my post.

As for the rest, it's a debate board, and I hardly think my (now) 3 posts on the topic in a thread of nearly 400 posts, counts as a "visceral reaction." Spanking is both useless and pointless; i see no reason to pander to spanking apologists by pretending otherwise.

Karen


"Terry manages to hand the bag off to Ruth Marie, who takes off in the most mincing sprint you have ever seen in your life. She does her best, but she runs like she's got a pink parasol in one hand and an inhaler in the other."


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Karen

"Veronica: "I hate fake deer too. Every time I see their stupid fake-deer faces I want to grab a shotgun and go all Cheney on 'em." Sure, but since fake deer don't talk, they won't

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