SAH/WOH - Why?
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SAH/WOH - Why?
| Mon, 02-20-2006 - 7:41am |
I am sure this has been done before but I was wondering this in light of recent posts lately.
Why did you decide to sah/woh?
Was it a choice or something expected of you?
Was your plan to sah/woh though out or impulsive? Long-term or short-term?

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Maybe it's the size thing?
I'm pretty sure standard shopping carts and standard car seats "click in" fairly securely.
Mondo
Well, considering that you had no idea what natural and logical consequences were, and couldn't think of any other discipline methods I might be using besides time-outs and spanking, I don't think it's very likely that's your parenting style. And I didn't say you would spank a child for not wearing a coat. I explained what a parent who uses natural and logical consequences would do if the child didn't want to wear a coat. You didn't know what that meant.
From what I've read in this thread, I think your parenting style sounds very authoritarian--you punish your kids if they don't follow your rules. Using natural and logical consequences require a different mindset.
I don't think there is any justification for spanking - but I also don't think parents are perfect (or have to be) or that spanking is the even the worst thing parents can do."
Well of course parents don't have to be perfect, thankfully! And of course there are worse things than spanking. Verbal abuse can be worse, and there are other forms of abuse that I won't even go into....Neglect can also be worse. But we arent comparing shades of "worse" when it comes to what's "best" for our kids. At least I didnt think we were!
" For better and, sometimes, worse, parent-child relationships are unique and incredibly lasting."
Yes even the children of serial killers love their parents. I read an article by the child of the green river killer a while back...(and no I'm not comparing a psycopath to a Joe average good parent who happends to spank)...so to your point....parents can do hellish things and their children will often still love them.
" Of all the things my dad did to my sisters and I when we were growing up, the spankings are not the most hurtful memories at all."
Yes, I'm with you on that. My parents didnt spank me at all, ever. I have an awful relationship with my dad that has nothing to do with discipline.
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