SAH/WOH - Why?
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SAH/WOH - Why?
| Mon, 02-20-2006 - 7:41am |
I am sure this has been done before but I was wondering this in light of recent posts lately.
Why did you decide to sah/woh?
Was it a choice or something expected of you?
Was your plan to sah/woh though out or impulsive? Long-term or short-term?

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"I must say that myself nor my DH have ever been angry when we spank our children. I guess mad would be a good word."
Okay I'm honestly confused. What is the difference between angry and mad?
If you are mad, you risk being out of control, or more violent than you should be. At least I would. Hence one of the many reasons I'd never spank my children.
He's 10.5 now.
While I am a *firm* believer in natural consequences, it isn't possible to stick to that theory 100%. Sometime the natural consquences aren't a deterrent to the child. Sometimes there are no natural consequences. Sometimes the natural consequences end up "punishing" the wrong party.
The belief in, and use of, natural consquences as a main disciplinary style, does not 100% preclude the belief that sometimes a spanking just works better.
"While I am a *firm* believer in natural consequences, it isn't possible to stick to that theory 100%. Sometime the natural consquences aren't a deterrent to the child. Sometimes there are no natural consequences. Sometimes the natural consequences end up "punishing" the wrong party."
Sometimes it just requires more creativity. If there are no natural consequences, or the natural consequences don't work, or they end up punishing the wrong person, you have to come up with another consequence
I don't think anybody has to follow one parenting theory all of the time, even if it is their main disciplinary practice. I use other tactics in conjunction with natural consequences when they add something, but I don't spank my kids. I don't think spanking kids teaches them anything useful or prepares them for the real world. Spanking may be easier for the parent, but imo, that isn't "better."
Yep; it's hard sometimes.
Do a lot of kids that age in Sweden have their own cell phones?
As ds repeatedly reminded me for a good portion of this year, he was the last one in his class to get a cell phone :-).
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