SAH/WOH - Why?

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Registered: 11-18-2005
SAH/WOH - Why?
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Mon, 02-20-2006 - 7:41am

I am sure this has been done before but I was wondering this in light of recent posts lately.

Why did you decide to sah/woh?

Was it a choice or something expected of you?

Was your plan to sah/woh though out or impulsive? Long-term or short-term?

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sun, 02-26-2006 - 12:44pm
I think there are things that are just as bad as spanking--emotional abuse, etc. I don't think my dad was a bad person for having spanked us a few times, and I can't say I've suffered any lasting emotional consequences. But, 40 years later, I do remember that it was humiliating. And for me, that's pretty much the only hurtful memory I have of my dad. I don't want my kids to have those memories.
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Sun, 02-26-2006 - 12:48pm
No, it doesn't mean failure as a parent. I don't believe in yelling at kids, but there have been times I've slipped. I've always apologized to my kids because I don't think it's okay for me to do that just because I'm an adult and they're kids. I've never even considered spanking them, but if I did, I would think I owed them one *big* apology. I tell them hitting is wrong, so I would be a hypocrite if I hit them.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sun, 02-26-2006 - 12:52pm

Wow; that's interesting. I can't think of any of dd1's friends who have cell phones yet (she's in third grade).

So kids go home alone after school at 9 or 10 in Sweden? I guess it makes sense for them to have a cell phone if they do.

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Registered: 01-18-2006
Sun, 02-26-2006 - 12:55pm

***You're a very authoritarian parent.***

What is wrong with authority?

***Your kids have to do what you say, "like it or not." You wouldn't allow your kids to make a bad choice and learn from it.***

Sure I do. Like I said. No coat no go. See they learn?

 

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Registered: 01-18-2006
Sun, 02-26-2006 - 12:57pm
So you now say I tell my children what to think? Don't you tell your children what to do? Do they just go to bed on their own? Grab a shower on their own?

 

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Registered: 08-27-2005
Sun, 02-26-2006 - 12:59pm

Actually, a lot of kids start walking home even earlier but usually only when the parents are already at home.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 02-26-2006 - 1:03pm

Allowing them to learn from their own choice would mean no coat get cold. A perfect logical circumstance unless the temp is cold enough to cause real danger (frost bite, hypothermia).

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Sun, 02-26-2006 - 3:32pm

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 02-26-2006 - 3:35pm

My point was...she said she was humiliated when she was spanked."

Another reason not to spank. Humiliation should *never* be a tool used to discipline. IMO its one of the worst things you can do to a human being...period. (Humiliation that is...).

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Registered: 01-18-2006
Sun, 02-26-2006 - 3:36pm
Well to be honest I wouldn't post my child's private school website with that information on a debate board. Would you?

 

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